...to think a lot of people care too much about things which are unlikely to ever become a real problem?

[Boomerwang]

The reason I'm asking is because I'm finding myself frequently responding to threads saying 'why does it matter?', 'Why are you posting this?', 'This seems so trivial' etc.

Someone complaining about being given a 'funny look' makes me think... just ignore it and move on? Are you likely to see that person ever again? Why can't you just laugh about it, fully secure in the knowledge that it'll never affect your life?

Comparing how you clean your house with others is a nice chat, but then looking down on someone who isn't as scrupulous as you are is not really necessary. Why do you care what they do with their homes?

Becoming offensive and making personal attacks on someone because they have a difference of opinion to you... what's that all about? Why do you have to be abusive about it? Why not just state that you disagree and leave out the whole 'you are a cunt of the highest order' part?

It's got me wondering if - and slightly pleased about - I am just ridiculously blasé about everything.

My responses are more like 'oh dear I think that woman is putting a curse on me with that look she's giving!'
'My house is covered in pet hair but I don't do much apart from vacuum, wash up, put the washing on/away and clean bathroom/kitchen every few days'
'I don't agree with you and I think perhaps your view is biased because you've never had to deal with this problem before'

Why so hardcore, people?

Agree to some extent OP, and with FolkGirl, BettyBat and Georgethecat.

The trivia doesn't bother me at all - it either does or doesn't interest you and even from seemingly trivial OPs the threads can develop in a way that is worth reading. If not I skip to the next one. The agression does though.

I had been coming across MN while searching for advice about a particular problem to do with DCs or house and found some really helpful stuff. Was interested by AIBU - it opened my eyes a bit as there is obviously a much wider cross-section of people on here than I'd meet on a normal day - and some of the threads are very good indeed. Then I got put off by the foul language and aggression and the way some threads ended up being like a "witch-hunt" or a "lynch-mob" (for me - others may not feel it), so I left for a year or so.

Came back though because there really is such good stuff on here and most of the time it's really worth reading"!

I agree, there's plenty of good stuff to read here, and I've learnt quite a lot, I believe.

Yes agree with that too, there are a lot of interesting threads which is why I lurk and occasionally post.

Yup, I think it is all down to interpretation, some people just see themselves as the perpetual victim and every situation is about them. There are a lot of life's victims on aibu

That's my impression, and I think many of these people compound it by finding things to Be Offended about and/or be Cotton Wool parents.

In RL I just let it all pass me by and don't get involved, so on here it is quite nice to say what I really think. AIBU is a good forum for it because very often they are being totally unreasonable, but don't think it because their friends and family won't give them the truth.

i live in a camper van (there i ve said it -whew !) people hate me , they don t know me , but hell , they sure hate me, (some of them) i dont hate them , i m a reasonable human being and i m old , yes , OLD !> great thing about being old is , i ve done it ,(life) and i m still trying , and i know longer care, sad , but i don t ,i simply wish that others would loose the judge by the cover attitude i was given this comp. by a client i worked 4 and logged onto this mn THING . ohmagod , people arse about others spelling , typos etc etc ,i really dont have ANY answer for the big life probs, but one thing i have learned is i wont get them on mn , P.S. yeah >did have the big house lifestyle onceaponatime and u know what ? that 2 was fab ....this vis ok ,for the moment >keep smiling , and 2 b sarky 2 a previous mn reply DO TEACH your nippers 2 swim

maybe I luff j00. Don't stop posting, you're ace. Tell the moaners where to stick it.

haven't got a clue what you said btw but we're friends now so that's ok.