to just say no to visitors?

[Newmummytobe79]

Both my baby and I are ill at the moment.

I'm usually a very happy and accommodating person when well :)

I'm a very independent person when ill also known as a pain in the arse five year old who is a complete bitch who no-one wants to be around and is best left alone but the inlaws have never seen this side of me

Bless them - they keep offering to bring stuff round etc and I know it's just because they havn't seen DC this week and I do understand how much they want a cuddle.

DC is mainly crying, sleeping or whinging at the moment - so not the best time to be played with.

Am I being unreasonable if I say 'thanks but no thanks' to their offers as all I want to do is sit on the sofa, cuddle baby and feel sorry for myself?

(also, I know if they do come round I'll put on my fake 'well' face, make endless brews and then be ratty with exhaustion when they leave :( I'd much rather take DC to see them/invite them round when we're well - hopefully in a few days time.

AIBU?

No of course not. Tell them you are unwell and don't want visitors and will contact them when you are feeling better, or ask your husband to phone them. Being a mother does not mean you become the entertainer of bored grandparents. You would have happilly asked them not to visit before having a kid, that shouldn't change on having children.

"no, we don't want to spread our germs, we'll ring you when we're better, thanks for thinking of us though, bye, go to go."

YANBU

YANBU.

Quarantine is always a good excuse, and its not a lie. You wouldn't them to catch what you've got would you?

If desperate, you're not entirely sure your DC hasn't caught your bug but IS grouchy so you'll make time up when better.

Or tell them you are not well enough to leave the sofa, so, if they are coming, could they bring in the weekly shop, and then get the ironing done, nip round with the vac., and put the dinner on while they are there ?

Yanbu. Thank them for showing interest and say you'll call them when youre better. Then duvet up the sofa and stay there. Hope you feel better soon.

Yanbu. Not at all.
There is nothing worse when you're ill than visitors who want cups of tea and attention.
Politely decline.