She's done it again!!!

[spingey]

Im so cross. My dsis wanted to take dd out. Said she would be here at 11. I have been up all night with a really bad stomach. It would have been great if she had taken dd out as planned as she has been so bored all morning.

Once again she has fannied about and still isnt here. Im so angry for dd's sake. She calls up and asks to speak to dd, tells dd she is going to take her out and then doesnt turn up. She did it on friday just gone too.

She is now being really nasty because I have told her she cant take dd out again. apparently IABU.....I dont think I am.

YANBU, was it you that posted about a similar situation last week too, and said that your DD has had issues with being let down by her Dad in the past too?

well thechnically she can't take her AGAIN....... as she hasn't been

i think spell out to her how disappointed your dd gets, and give her 1 last chance to turn up.

Yanbu. She sounds completely unreliable.

YANBU. Doesn't she understand how disappointed your poor DD must be?

Yep that was me!

I just said that to her, when you tell a child you will be over in a bit they can hold out for a while, 3 hours is eternity to a 3 year old. She has been quite upset watching me running back and forth to the loo and as someone else has pointed out her dad used to do this and so there is that too! Im livid!

I told her she isnt taking dd out ever again....Im not going to let her do this, make promises and let her down. I cant even make up for it and take her out myself because I have an upset stomach. Have promised her a magazine.

My sis is sending me nasty text messages now.

When it happened last week I decided not to tell dd if my sis made plans with me to take her out, my sister called earlier and spoke to dd on the phone. I will calm down about it but then my sister will get her own way and wont see that what she is doing is wrong. Even though I have literally spelt it out to her she cant see that what she has done is unfair and keeps saying "im coming in a minute, your the one being mean not letting her come"

My brother was like this many years ago. He just didn't understand what was involved in getting a small child ready for a day out and just how excited they get.

The number of times I had to look at a little boy ready and waiting by the front door for an uncle (and sometimes a grandad) who just never turned up was too many and heartbreaking.

I really feel for you and your daughter. My brother used to do this all the time to my daughter too. Make promises and play the wonderful, devoted uncle but with no substance to actually follow through. Of course I was then in the wrong for pulling him up on it.

YANBU that is shit behaviour on her part.

Tell her she can take her out next week. Go out and when (if) she calls to find our where you are, tell her you'll be back soon. Turn up three hours later

My brother does this to my dd. Now at the age of 6 she doesn't believe anything he promises and just say's com Uncle Oi if you say so'

She is starting a new job next week so it was the last time it would have happened.
She was orriginally going to take dd to the museum in town but bailed out on that idea, which again dd was dissapointed about. Plan B was to go to the soft play area but I was being expected to pay for it.

Hopefully if Im feeling better tomorrow I can take dd to the museum myself, just dont want to risk it today.

I like Newmummytobe79's idea.

Not so sure your sister would like it if the tables were turned spingey.

I'd be furious too.

My poor niece is always being let down, the story of her life is ''we were going to go to (insert place) but we didn't'' poor child.

I know :( now she's a bit older she can go out on her own with her mates and doesn't have to rely on her waste of space mother (my sister) and boyfriend to take her places.

If that was me getting nasty messages etc from my sister after she had done this would be to text her back and say "listen, you let my DD down, not me! You're the one being nasty now, not me! I CANNOT allow my DD to be let down so often and this is why I am not allowing you to do it again".

Simple enough! I don't think YABU at all!! I think you are bang on here TBH! I know when my brother let my DD down, he said he was going to turn up to her easter play and then didn't and then her end of year show and didn't I just stopped inviting him to stuff!! He still isn't invited to anything and he knows why!! Its his fault, not mine, therefore he should feel bad when my DD tells him about all her school plays etc!!

Completely agree with Newmummy!!! I absolutely think she needs a taste of her own medicine.