To think my DP should go to the gym later?

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Tonight is my DS parents evening. I usually go to the gym on my way home while my son is at an after school club on a Weds. So I finish work, go straight to the gym, then pick up DS (gym is round the corner from DS club, and 4 miles away from home - no public transport). So if I go home, I have to come back out and do another 8 mile round trip anyway.

If I go to the gym, then it will leave me 30 mins to have a shower and get the three of us fed before I have to turn around and go back out again.

Now, I could not go to the gym, but I was rather hoping that DP would get the dinner ready for us for when we both got home seeing as he doesn't want to come to DS parents evening.

He also goes to a gym on a Weds (different one to me - his is "posh" and is 10 miles away) and could do our tea and then go while we are at parents evening but apparently he wants to go before dinner (and I suspect walk in the door and have dinner waiting for him on the table ).

I work late on other nights and this fits in well with DS club usually so I am used to doing this. DP visits to the gym are more hit and miss.

So, am I being unreasonable?

Should you not both miss the gym for one evening and both go to the parents evening?
I know what i see as more important.

Agree with curbyburr that surely you can both miss the gym for one night to attend parents evening?

I would be more cross that my dh didn't want to come to parents evening...

Can't you exercise a bit less at the gym, shower there and have a quick tea when you get home? And encourage DP to come to parents' evening ...

I'm defintely going to parents evening, DP does not want to go. Long story.

I would certainly sacrifice going to the gym for parents evening, but I know I can do both, but a little bit of help wouldn't go amiss to mean I can do so, whilst DP also getting what he wants.

The meal out is a great idea, but I spent ages prepping the house (laying the table etc) and prepping the dinner before I left work work this morning. Should have posted last night shouldn't I?

Sorry OP, I don't understand why you spent ages "prepping" the house for what is essentially a family tea/dinner. Do you have the Queen coming to visit?

Of course you aren't being unreasonable. Give him a call and ask him to do that.

Give the narcissistic body fascism a rest for one night and go to parents evening, both of you.

Neither one of you will feel any ill effects from missing one night dicking around on a power plate.

I know this wasn't the question, but I'd string DH up by the dangly bits for not wanting to go to parents night.

You're what's known as a martyr, OP. OMG I can't believe you spent ages "prepping the table"

Go to the gym. Pick DS up. Get a takeaway for you both. Your DH can have beans on toast.

FGS it's not that much of a dilemma that you need to ask this question on an online forum!

(Disclaimer: am 32 weeks pregnant and pissy)