Need help, i know it's in the wrong place but I need advice cause I don't know what to do.

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Have name changed for this, I just need quick help.
My partner (female also) was abused by her dad she's always said she was never attracted to guys, that it creeps her out. That was fine until now.
She's not been right for weeks, she made friends with a guy on facebook and now she is confused. Just got it out of her after promising that it's okay.
She still has a laugh with me, when she hugs me she doesn't want to let me go she still loves me. But she feels okay around guys now, and odd around girls not just me, around all girls.
What the hell do I say or do? I am gutted cause I love her to hell and back.
HELP PLEASE No bitches if possible, im feeling crappy enough as it is.

I dunno, I guess I would take sexuality out of it and look at it as your partner finding someone else attractive. I'm pragmatic and see that relationships end for a variety of reasons.

I'm guessing ~ sitting on my pseudo psychiatrists couch ~ that she blocked off her hetro feelings because of her father? and perhaps wasn't actually a lesbian at all but just wanted to be? I'm guessing shes curious and exploring the other side of her sexuality.

Even straight couples do that.

Sorry Lovvie, you're going to have work this through yourselves.

A crap history with men can't make you a lesbian I'm afraid. You either are, or you are not - but your experiences can't make you gay. Sorry for you that this has happened but nobody can make anyone stay with them if they don't want to be there. You know this. I wish you well to get through it without too much pain.

Fuck! No idea and no experience so have to flip it round (I'm straight).. and well, you love her, she's utterly confused right?

What choice do you have?

Support her, love her, let her find herself/go through it... there IS nothing you can do that wouldn't push her away other than to be there for her (for a while, keep your self respect).

That fucking cliche of if you love someone let them go is absolutely right... but you're not there yet?? Are you? She's been open enough to tell you she's messed up. She knows she's messed YOU up. Be her friend.

That's all you can do.

I hope for you that she's simply found that all men aren't demons and she loves you more than anything else. I hope she's simply discovering peace. For you, you need other friends around you to support you in the coming months.

A horrid situation for you, worse perhaps because there's no 'baddies' (none but her bloody father anyway)... I really hope things turn out okay for you, and for her. I don't believe there's anything you can do but be there for her. x

She still loves you but does she still find you attractive, and want to be with you?

Trios is right I think to take gender out of it in which case it's like a y couple where one is tempered - can you work through it?

But if she's realised she's actually hetro, as opposed to gay or bi, that's a different thing. You need to talk more I'm afraid and find out.

Big hug for you.

Poor you, sounds awful for you both. It seems she has been hiding feelings for someone else. You need to have an honest and frank talk about the truth of her feelings for someone else (M or F)

Tempered? Tempted sorry.

I agree with trois, take the "labels" out of the equation an you're left with a) does she still love you? And b) does she want to be with you and only you? It must be a confusing time for her though. I hope you both manage to sort it out.

How old are you both? If you are her first partner, she could be now questioning her sexuality as she has blocked out men (understandably) until now.