Sorry - this is long!
We have been to and froing for ages trying to organise a suitable appointment to discuss insurance/mortgage type stuff. DH is crap at the best of times at getting organised so I have been doing the organising.
We got a load of information about it and he didn't get around to looking at it for a week or so. He then looked at it, we discussed it.
We are now at the point of organising the appointment. DH said he wanted it as soon as possible which is fine - enough faffing about. The agent said he could do evenings but I ruled this out as it would be bang on when we are trying to get the kids to bed so not the best for having a discussion with an outsider about this stuff. I settled on the weekend after next as this weekend, I am busy. This was as soon as possible in my book, given we'd waited so long to organise it already, what's another 10 days?
DH then says - directly, in an email to the agent after agent had confirmed weekend appointment - that this evening would be better. Assuming he had missed the fact that an appointment had already been agreed, due to the email string being long, I re-iterated to both that appt had been made for weekend after next.
DH then calls me to tell me that "he has his reasons" for wanting it sooner and I need to trust him. Turns out that he actually is worried about his health and wants to get this out of the way before making his doctor's appointment. (I "forced his hand" [his words] to tell me as I didn't get why we should organise the appt at such a crap time).
Sorry this is long but AIBU to think he shoudl have just told me that before we finalised the appt or even afterwards but before attempting to re-organise it? He insists I should have trusted him that he had his reasons to re-organise but I feel he should have trusted me to react appropriately and confided the health worry (he didn't want to panic or worry me or broadcast it before he actually knows if anything is wrong) ...