AIBU to expect my DD's teacher to be able to spell our surname?

[MateyMooo]

Admittedly it is an unusal surname, but we are there is a city in England with the same name, which even has a cathederal.... so maybe that not that unusual after all.

I took DD to school this morning and noticed her name place had been spelt incorrectly. Of course I pointed this out, but I had also pointed out that the same teacher had made the same mistake in the first week of school (this time it was on a SPELLING book).

To be fair I had to make up a song so that DD could learn to spell her own surname, and she has known how to spell it for 3 years, but still. AIBU?

nope... and i'm not going through the list of cathedrals before you guess it!!!!

Salisbury. Bet it's Salisbury.

YANBU. My (not popular but certainly not unusual) name was spelled wrong by many teachers when I was at school. It is annoying.

Carlisle is often spelled Carlyle

I know how you feel - I have an uncommon surname and the teachers regularly spell my son's name incorrectly. A bit annoying - especially as I work there 3 days a week!!

From your OP it seems they have made a mistake just twice.

Teachers should spell names correctly, and if there is an error then it should be changed ASAP. I have a class list in the back of my diary as I have numerous children with complicated and extensive surnames that I am unlikely to learn to spell with confidence.
But my surname is only 5 letters long, it is on my door, the school website, notice board and on my badge.
Should I correct every letter and note with it spelled inaccurately?
It happens regularly. Why can't parents get my name right?

If it's not Carlisle it might well be Lincoln

oops sorry... illusions of grandure!

Its an abbey not a cathedral!

Whitby?

I worked with a girl called Anne once. She rang up some suppliers to order something, and I heard her tell them her name and the office address. A couple of days later the parcel arrived addressed to

"Annwithanee"

(Anne with an E)

Alban I reckon

I corrected the spelling of our surname on Boy's literacy book when I was in for parents' meeting. To be fair though, nobody can spell my surname. Every company that I deal with gets it wrong.

So I do have some sympathy. I'm a teacher (secondary) - very few of my pupils or their parents can spell it.

It's not that complicated, it just has an extra letter where you wouldn't expect to find one.

My DS teacher often mis-spells his name, its the same as the saint who guards the pearly gates, not uncommon at all, but she still gets the ae the wrong way round, and he corrects her!
Mind you, I had a difficult surname before I married, and I was another one who always spelled it after saying it, also, if it was read out, it was always pronounced wrong, and that always annoyed me too, it had a y in it and an e at the end, so to me it was obvious the y should have been pronouced like the y in eye, not the i in rip!

Just keep politely correcting it. I would also mention at parents evening that you will take stickers away from teacher if they keep getting the spelling wrong.

Difficult spellings often take a while to sink in, and only with a cause and affect approach (whether that be a sticker, tick or cross) and even adults need it sometimes. If it irks you, keep on (pleasantly) its annoying, it can be learned with a bit of thought, so really, though I don't EXPECT teachers to get things right first time, if they know it upsets you, I expect them to try and get it right.

jandy I feel your pain. I'm a Mac, not a Mc, and to make things even more frustrating I'm a 'Macd', not a MacD'. I feel like I've I've spent my entire life saying 'M-A-C-small D' only to have 'Miss Ice McD' in response. And yes it does sodding matter! Read John Prebble's 'Culloden' - a Mac, a Mc, a MacX, a Macx, a McX and a Mcx mean hugely different things.

DS & DD have both our surnames and usually go by DP's. It's forrin, needs to be spelt out, but is ultimately far less frustrating to deal with.

I think teachers have a nightmare with names, I spent a happy hour playing guess the prounciation of the name with my children, when the Christmas card list came, I was hopeless, to the mirth of my dts.

My maiden name was Abcdefghik-I'll-spell-that-for-you-A-b-c-..., so I do understand what it's like.

I am currently teaching a class with a boy whose name is spelled one way one the class list but he spells it differently. I asked him about it - he said it was spelled one way in his parents' home country and differently in English.

My son has the correct spelling - but the wrong pronunciation in school for years and years, to the point where he tells ME I am saying it wrong. FFS.

Worst thing is, my mum is the head, and I have watched her many a time writing certificates etc, and double checking she has the correct spellings!

Its also a Mc name. Its Mclean, and is said mclain, not m clean... hmpf. Its my ex's name - his adopted name. Still, its better than my name!

Get this all the time with DDs name which is actually common and easy - they just pronounce it with an 'e' at the end instead of an 'a'

Ecolady I totally get you there - it's part of the reason I hate my surname with a vengeance!

I reckon your surname is Bury St Edmunds.

Teachers aren't helped by parents who give children correctly spelt names buy insist on weird pronunciation or the other way round. DH has a name that isn't hard to spell (only 5 letters) but is so often misspelt that I have concluded that the world splits into those who care and try to spell names right and those who don't think it matters.