To not wake DS1 up for Pre-School

[JoandMax]

DS1, 3.7 yo, is due at Pre-school at 9am but is still absolutely fast asleep! I have just rung them to say be won't be in and got a rather snotty response that I should of woken him up in time....

He rarely sleeps past 7am unless ill so he's either coming down with something or exhausted so surely it would be horrible to wake him up when he's so peacefully asleep??? If he was at school I obviously would wake him in time but AIBU to not do it for Pre-school??

Absolutely not! Sometimes they forget who is in charge (ie you, not the pre-school). I've had a similar experience with nursery. Just be firm.

if it had been me on the end of the phone at the pre-school I work in I would have said 'thanks for letting us know, if he wakes up and wants to come we'd love to see him later, hope he's not coming down with anything.' Odd response to you. School you do need to wake them, but pre-school, if it is unusual for him to sleep in, definitely not!

YANBU, DS is fast asleep right now too. He would normally be up and chatting right away but he couldn't even get his eyes open properly and has gone back into a deep sleep.

If he was normally a lazy little so and so I wouldn't let him sleep on but because it's not like him I'd rather he got the extra sleep he clearly needs.

I've had to coax 4yo dd out of bed for school today which is unlike her. Preschool, I'd have left her definitely. Small children need to sleep sometimes. Preschool can bugger off being chippy with you.

Yanbu, if it is unusual for him to sleep in.

If he rarely sleeps past 7 then there's probably a good reason, how guilty would you feel if you'ld bundled him out of bed and in a few hours got a call to say he was poorly?

Thanks, I was hoping for those responses!

I've checked him and no temperature but out for the count so I will leave him as long as he needs.

YANBU. Clearly he needs his sleep. I know I am ancient but at 3.7, my dcs were attending playgroup, not any sort of pre-school which would impose this sort of snottiness! I do wonder, sometimes, just why it is that we are so insistent on forcing children into a school environment quite so early. There's plenty of time for him to have to get up every day when he's at school.

YANBU!!! What's with the attitude from nursery? Jeez. You did exactly the right thing. I did the same myself last week (DS developed a rather nasty cold the next day...). You know your child and if it's not a regular thing (which it obviously isn't) then the nursery can whistle. So much for having the children's best interests at heart . Maybe the person you spoke to was just having an off-day.

Yanbu, he is 3 not 13! He must be really tired for some reason. If it is a once off it is fine.

Don't worry about the snotty person. Hope he enjoys his little lie in.

Normally they are lovely and the workers in his room are very caring and accommodating - I'm not sure who is was I spoke to but it may have been the owner, am sure she's just having a stress day.

Me and DS2 are enjoying the lie in anyway, still not dressed and lazing around!

Hope it's not a lurgy, if either of mine stayed asleep at that age it was because they needed to. Have a lovely day with him when he does emerge!