AIBU to be suspicious of the motives of a 6 year old to check on another childs reading book?

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dd told me another girl in her class had taken a book out of her bag, as she had accused dd of taking from another child. It was a book she had taken in from home. The girl, according to dd had gone through dds bag whilst dd was there, dd walked away as the girl was being "bossy" about the book. when she returned the book had gone and dd then found it in the cloack room.

I told dd that I would talk to the teacher as the girl should not be going through her bag, but that dd should challenge her or tell the teacher, but she thought as it was a book from home she would get into trouble. I said then she was not to take things from home to school in future, she said she had done the same with a teddy another time and had taken it out of dds bag and would not give it back, but toook it to the teacher and said she found it, dd then had to say it was hers and got told by the teacher not to take toys to school, fair enough but dd did not challenge the girl either.

I asked dd why she has not challenged the girl and she said because she goes in my bag all the time to check my reading book and see how many pages I can read as she does not believe I can change my book every day . Im now wondering if the girl has been put up to checking dds reading book by her parents, as surely this is not something a 6 year old would think to do, would they?

She sounds lovely . I'd be having a quiet word with the teacher.

I will definatly talk to the teacher. But i just find it very very odd.

I would not be surprised if she had been put up to it by her parents. I know a child who does this, and she has also been specially trained to report back to her parents on the standards of cleanliness and tidiness in any houses she visits.

Keepingaway seriously?

If the girl had 'been put up to it' why would she take a teddy bear?

Is your daughter, well. economically better off than this child? does she have nicer, newer things? is it a case of jealousy? Or perhaps, is the other child just a a bit nosey/dislikes your child and tries to get her into trouble?

BTW, not really liking use of the word "challenge" for 6yos. They are finding their way in the world and fronting out a peer probably isnt something they would be comfortable with.

Stick a copy of War & Peace in the bag.

And yes, have a chat with the teacher.

Yes, this is why I am keeping away from them.

why are people like this, well her mum will be well and truely rumbled now, I hope the teacher lets her know as well. if of course that is the case, I just cant see a 6 year old needing to do this out of their own curiosity.

Some children are just - well, sly.

Wouldnt surprise me. There is a mother of a child in DDs class (year 2) and she is always going on about reading levels and that the teaching cant be very good as her DD isnt as far advanced on the reading scheme as they know she is capable of blah blah. I just used to say "oh well, they are all different, I dont find it very helpful to compare" and not get drawn in when she asked was level DD was on. Then, after a bad day and she was pissing me off for going on AGAIN I said "OH I think they are fine, DD is free reading and has been since last year!" her face was a picture and she doesnt speak to me now har har!!1 :o

dd is not any better off than this child probably finacially worse off but doubt it would be noticable.

not sure why challenge is a problematic word but fair enough, I did not berate her for not challenging, just asked why she had not and accepted her explination. DD tends to view things as water off a ducks back untill they begin to bother her, the reason she didnt tell her teacher is because she had taken things into school she should not, not unusual for this class, most of the children take toys. but I tend to not allow toys but on these two occassion did allow a small cuddly toy and today a book.

bogey and for all the reasons you list - I have successfully avoided the school play ground for12 years

1-2-3 huzzah ME!

I have got the timing sussed now Trois I get there just as DS is coming out, walk round to get DD2 as she comes out at the same time from a different door and then back round to get DD1 and we are done! Not for me the hanging around at the gate gossiping :o

I avoid at all costs never get into any talk about reading bonds etc etc.

It may not be down to the parent at all. It's plausible that the 6 year old really is that way, without any other motive but to dominate other children. There's one in DD's class and has even been known to approach parents on the yard to try and tell tales about their child whilst with their parents.

I keep telling myself that, chances are, they'll grow up to be really nice adults

at my 1st primary school that I left at around 6 I was always ahead on the books (the pirate books with the red,green and blue pirates) and there was a girl obsessed with trying to catch me up - little girls can be competitive at that age for want of another word