To think a nine month should sleep

[Yawner247]

Aibu to expect my nine month old to sleep through most nights with the occasional night where she may need extra comfort/feed?! She's bf and is on four meals a day and four to five bf a day!!!!! Dh snoring his head off and I'm f**king feeding AGAIN!!!!!!

Have you tried being mean and only offering water at night? Often puts them off bothering IME.

Hmmm no but I think it might be an issue as she won't take a bottle!!!

Mine doesn't, does that help?!

I'm with you. Mine is only five months, but DP us away, I'm knackered and LO is WIDE AWAKE and showing no signs of going back to sleep. Argh.

Try a cup or non spill drinks container if they won't use a bottle. BFing for comforting back to sleep is a hard habit to break, but you need to get some sleep!

DD didn't. Now doesn't need feeding at night (13 months) so that's better except that she was up from 12-1am last night just for bloody fun.

EBF DD finally started sleeping through the night at 9 months, if it's any consolation.

She was a terrible sleeper and I was beyond desperate at that point, being the sole feeder up until then.

I did a couple of nights of not feeding but comforting her instead - it wasn't easy but I was basically suicidal by that point and something had to give.

She's nearly 18 months old and sleeps through the night all the time now.

Just to provide you with some hope. :)

Mine didn't either. I also won't tell you how old she finally was when she slept.

Round two thanks for your posts! Seriously need to sort it out!!!

I still nurse DD3 in the night on occasions (she has bad eczema and is cranky and 2.3y) and would nurse DD2 if she needed it (she is 4y) though I would grumble in the morning!

It's not fun when they won't sleep but it is developmentally normal for a young baby to wake in the night and need reassurance from their mother/father, if they are bf then they often ask to nurse - the bonus being bm contains CCK (cholecystokinin a sleep inducing hormone that works on mum & baby) so baby goes back to sleep easier and mum does too.

Still awake....why tonight?! We had two days sleeping through from 8-8 I'm so grumpy because I am so tired!

YABU

DS was a terrible sleeper and we hit a blip at 9 months after improving at 6-7 months. It did get better after a week or so. There is a developmental leap around 9-10 months. Also I remember DS getting some teeth around then which did not help.

Can you go to bed early? I had to force myself to get to bed after dinner (so half 8) and also would send dh in to resettle for some feeds. Id only go in if DS was adamant it had to be boob! He did settle down again.

Try water from a cup. DD2 is 10 months now, and sleeping through most nights, but when she does wake up and won't settle back, I've tried giving her some water instead of a feed and it did help. She stopped crying and settled back to sleep when I put her back down. She won't take a bottle at all either, but will take a cup when thirsty.

What iggly said. It's definitely not a linear improvement. It peaks & troughs but generally goes in the general direction of getting better. I stopped night feeds at 1 because I was so loving utterly weak

Good luck.

Maybe someone should come and tell my 21 month old that she should sleep through at least once in her life.

I know it sucks but I just go to bed really really early (no dp so don't need to worry about beind sociable) and try and get a few hours before dd is up again.

At 9 months it is still perfectly normal for them to want night feeds, sorry. Most nutrition at that age is got from milk, not food....till around a year I think so it is important to keep feeding. Night feeds tend to be fattiest and best too. At 9 months tis still important for comfort too.

Dd didn't start sleeping through till around 15,16 months which is very normal. (Bar last night, thanks dd!) I heartily sympathise!

I did like slinking. DD was 8 mo, bf but would take bottles.

I was still nursing 2 to 3 times a night and going out of my mind. DH took over for 1 night with bottles and it confirmed what I suspected: she did not drink much at all and was only waking up out of habit.

It took two (long) nights of cuddling instead of feeding, but now she sleeps through 9 times out of 10, usually from 8 pm to 6 am with a dream feed at 10 pm.

And she is still putting weight on at the same rate, and is actually happier and more ready to play during the day.

Good luck op, I hope your LO lets you get some rest!

thank you for all your messages I know ibu really but I was sleepy!!!!! we shall see how we go! She's full of beans today unlike me!!