This is breaking me and bf up and I really need to unload.
Bit of background:
My best friend is my bf sister.
Me and best friend have known each other since we were 4. As a teenage I spent school holidays at hers or on holiday with her parents (my dad is forces).
Her brother is 3 years older than us - as teenagers he was my first kiss, first everything. It was never serious just a cheeky snog or something and always in secret.
The 3 of us live in the same city and spend a lot of time together especially as our social groups overlap.
About 2 and a half years ago my best friend went to europe for her job. In that time me and her brother got very close, became friends with benefits and after many many a late night realised that maybe we should try it for real.
It was great. We made the decision not to tell parents, friends (a few knew about fwithb but nothing else) and especially not best friend/sister. Mainly because it effects a lot of people.
That went on for about a year. She came back and 3 months later we made 'us' public.
She was icy and said she was worried about her being caught in the middle. We talked and tried to put her at ease and we were all fine with each other.
Last month bf and I decided to move in together - have put both our flats on the market and are looking together.
She wont talk or see either of us. We have tried separately and together but we both get know where.
She will check if one of us is going out before going out herself. Our friends find it all very awkward.
It is making me and BF re-think our relationship together if it means that our relationship with beat friend/sister becomes non existent.
AIBU to expect her not freeze us out and for her to realise that her actions are actually tearing us apart (even if a part of me thinks that may be what she wants)