To have just text my boss to say I am Ill

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Just to clarify straight away that I DID NOT text to say I wasnt coming in just that I am not feeling well.

I am a nanny and havent had a day of sick in the 3 years I have worked for this family, however I have had a cold since October and just havent been able to shift it, over the past week I have slowly felt worse and today have had a high temperature, dizzy spells if I get up to fast and a very sore/swollen face, my DP insisted that I went to see the emergency doctor who has diagnosed sinutis and sent me home with a very strong dose of anti-biotics and told me to rest.

I thought it was only polite to text my boss and let them know that although I am going to work I am not feeling great and tomorrow (possibly all week) will be quiet and I will not be as efficient as normal.

My DP has just said that they may think I am laying the groundwork to call in sick or that I am hoping that they tell me not to come in, (not the case at all I fully intend to go to work), my bosses are fantastic and I hope know me well enough to know that I havent text for either of those reasons, because I am not feeling well I am know worrying about this so please tell me AIBU to have let my bosses know or is my DP just being an idiot?

"YABU to breathe your horrible germs all over your innocent employers."

Probably her innocent employer's kiddlywinks what gave OP the germs in the first place!

Sinusitis - is horrible!! Do you feel like you need a couple of days off? If you do, you should take them. You are a nanny, not a superhero, you are allowed to be sick as well.

I think you should call them or text them again and say 'Sorry, I realise my text might have been a bit ambiguous, I will be in tomorrow, I just wanted to let you know that we will be having a quieter than normal week'

Bupcakes - exactly what I was thinking!

Text - why text?

Because it's less intrusive.

If I still had a nanny I would appreciate the text. Dh and I could then compare diaries and plan for the week and would try, if at possible, to clear a day for you to stay home. It might be that by going in on Monday I could bring work home for Tuesday for example. This is much easier to manage than a call on Monday saying you can't work. But it all depends on the relationship you have with your employers.

I do usually ring if I have to talk to them about something but on this occasion I know that they have family staying until tomorrow morning so didnt want to disturb them and since I wasnt phoning in sick (I would have phoned not text) thought a text just to let them know I wasnt going to be my normal self and that their children may end up with lots of tv time was fair.

Squeeky I didnt email as I doubt they would have picked it up whereas i knew a text would be seen

Well you can't always be sure a text will be seen though...

I have had numerous texts like this off staff. It allows me to think of contingency plans although sometimes it would be better for me to just know straight away that someone isn't coming in so I can make definate arrangments.

I prefer texts as I have two jobs and young children and arn't able to always answer my phone for matters relating to my own business when I am at my employed job.

My boss has just sent a text back to say thank you for letting her know, she has made up the spare bed so that I can lie down if I need to after taking youngest charge to pre-school and will try to get home early if she can, so she thankfully has taken the text the way it was meant.

I have by no means martryed myself, I have had a cold which has been annoying but not a reason to not go to work, my bosses are both doctors and have no back up childcare so if I phone in sick it doesnt just affect them it affects their patients so I would as mrswobble says rather go in tomorrow and give them time to organise cover for later in the week if needed which has been done in the past.

My eldest charge is at school and has an afterschool activity tomorrow so wont be home until 5pm and my youngest is at pre-school 9.30-12.30 so I can have a few hours rest and then youngest can watch tv (or play with his toys) in the afternoon whilst I rest on the sofa, but think my bosses should know ahead of time that youngest will basically be amusing himself.

It sounds like you and her are well in tune with each other :) It can be a lovely relationship between a Mum & a Nanny when there's no jealousy or power struggle and both appreciate each other.

OP, the fact you really aren't very well..don't fell bad, take some time to recover. It's hard because you feel guilty but we're all human, the quicker you get better the quicker you'll be back at work. Don't get too worked up about it. Also I text my colleagues if I can't come in, just easier, if this is a common method of communication between you don't see the problem in it.

Don't worry what anyone thinks, go and make yourself a nice up of tea, have a bath and get under your duvet.

Reading from what you have posted, both you and your employers sound lovely! You haven't had a day off sick in 3 years, and I think it's testament to your commitment that you sent this text - not to take time off, but to warn them that you aren't quite up to scratch, so it will be low key nannying for a few days.

Re the health thing - you will have shifted the cold virus from October, but possibly been exposed to several viruses since, and it sounds like it has wreaked havoc on your sinuses, and your immune system. Now you are on heavy duty antibiotics, the secondary stuff 'should' start to clear fairly quickly. You have to look after yourself! take rest when you can, maybe some vitamins (am not a great fan under normal circumstances, but they can help when feeling overwhelmed) take every opportunity to rest, drink plenty etc... x

you might feel ok tomorrow, just take it easier if you can thatn you normally would at work; if you feel ill you can then have a few days off.

the text is fine; if they mention, just say
'well in 3yrs Ive never been ill! wasnt sure the best way to do it...' and discuss in future what you should do, as the last thing you want is to let them down etc, but you are human...humans get ill.

ps get well soon