AIBU to think a sore eye doesn't constitute illness and therefore a day in bed for DH

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my DH is a lazy git at the best of times. Today whilst at Rugby Tots, my DS (2.5) got a little carried away and poked him in the eye whilst throwing the ball.

Now it obviously hurt as DH went to sit down immediately and was nearly crying (well it looked like it!)

When we got home, he literally took to his bed. Normally I would say fair enough, but he knew today that I had to work from home (as have possibly biggest bloody project ever at work, landing next week) and I have odds and ends to sort out.

I told him to go to the hospital if his eye hurt that much. I did look at it, and there was a little scratch on the cornea. I also told him to take some painkillers.

well he stayed in bed all bloody day. I had to work whilst the Disney Channel looked after my 2 DC's. He came downstairs as I was giving them tea and then went off to A&E to get it checked and managed to get home after bed time.

Drs have given him Antib drops as a precaution, but have said he should be fine. To make it worse, he couldn't even put the eyedrops in himself and whinged at me 3 times, complaining. I then did it for him and told him to stop being a worse baby than his kids.

I am livid, AIBU... ? or should I have more sympathy with him?

I haven't slept for more than 4 hours a night for the past week due this project. And I feel he offers me no support as it is.

I bet he goes to football practice tomorrow. I may lynch him if he does!

Normally I would say fair enough

Why? It was a sore EYE!

How are things today op?

Maybe he should lie on the sofa watching disney channel with the dc today while you are working. That way they'll all keep it quite quiet, dc can help to look after him and bring him drinks etc and all be generally out if your hair :o

If he complains you can just point out that he's always been more than happy for you to do childcare when you've been ill (assuming this is true - you don't say so explicitly but from the other stuff you say I'm guessing there's a chance it's happened before!) so you don't see why it's any different for him.

I think that eye injuries can be suprisingly painful but given his previous history of turning sniffles into manflu and then being able to recover when there is something on that he wants to do I think it's perfectly reasonable to assume he is over exaggerating and as others have said he's cried wolf too often!

a corneal scratch is agony and you can't even open your eye, one of the worst pains I have had, YABVU

YABVU

YABVVU. I have an eye injury at the moment and have been advised to lie down, keep my eyes shut and nap as much as possible to aid healing. My eyes feel like they would if I had been awake for 48 hours in the desert - the only respite I get is having them closed.

I would be angry and very hurt if my DH was "livid" with me. Eyes are incredibly precious and I am doing everything I can to prevent a serious infection (also have drops to out in, although I have mastered this!). I would expect the full support of my family!

The problem with crying wolf is that no one believes you when you are telling the truth, and I am guessing that everyone who is saying YABU has never lied or exagerated illness, so they have been believed and treated with sympathy when they are ill or injured. But the OPs OH is now reaping what he has sown.

In the OPs position I would probably feel the same, but imo this isnt about a sore eye but about his shitty attitude in general. He hides in the bedroom all weekend rather than see his own kids?! Sore eye or no sore eye, he sounds like a lazy waste of space and the OPs life would be alot easier without this man-child around expecting her to pander to him.

The best thing to do with an eye injury is keep your eyes shut, how could he do that and look after the children? And if you have that big a project surely that is down to you if you only get four hours sleep not your partner? You surely make the decision not to have more sleep?

How did today pan out OP?

Sorry MNers - Work got in the way of life this week.

SO - his eye was absolutely fine on Sunday, good enough for him to go to football all day.

But irrespective of this DC's and I had a great time swimming and then sleeping..

So, crying wolf again?

The question now is, what are you going to do about him treating you like this and opting out of family life?

The bigger question eh??

What next?

Leave the bastard !!

It's amazing how many posters can have such negative comments about a simple family disagreement.

I'm glad everything's ok OP and it was nothing serious.

He spends all weekend in the bedroom watching footie and only comes back down after the kids are in bed! That is OPTING OUT.

I didnt say she should leave him, but I did ask what she is going to do.

She has said several times how unhappy she is, how pissed off she is at his laziness and lies (norovirus for 3 weeks must be a medical first!) and how she is sick of him treating her like this.

So, asking what she is going to do about it isnt U surely?

Personally I would suggest insisting on counselling, and making sure that she gets some "me" time so the lazy git has no choice but to step up.

Take a chill pill and stop interfering so much in her life.

Live your own.

OP I understand. I work from home and DH broke a limb at Christmas and my first second thought was "The absolute twat! Now I will have to work AND look after DC!"

It's hard to feel pity. Especially when you suspect they are a bit lazy anyway.

I managed to flick the corner of a takeaway menu in my eye once and got a cornea scratch, was agony and as my brothers funeral was next day I tried to underplay but HAD to go to bed after an hour as was sooo painful to keep eye open. Woke up next day and eye was swollen, had to go to hospital. From this I believe he was in pain but it really comes down to do you believe that YOUR husband was just being selfish and pretending/exaggerating or was it just so inconvenient for you that you had no sympathy!!

Take a chill pill and stop interfering so much in her life.

Live your own.

I knew there was something I should be doing!

When did asking a question become interfering? Oh and fuck off.

P.s. Only read 1st page so sorry if my advice/comment has become moot as all moved on :-)

hahahaha at 'take a chill pill'.

Encouraging posters to take drugs foglike?

Suppose the answer's in your mn name.

Encouraging posters to take drugs foglike?

^^

But it's nice to see you being supportive.

Ah, seems like ywnbu afterall!