So i know i am but please tell me so!

[EllenandBump]

I am now starting to get impatient with the council, i have made a homeless application had it rejected and now waiting on the review of it. They have had further evidence of DV, but they seem to be taking absolutely forever to get a final answer. I love my mum very much, but feeling i need my freedom and own space and it is doing my head in not knowing!!

I just want a home for my son and me! I am just getting so impatient. I know i am bein g unreasonable, but these months (almost 3) have been wasted if they still come back and say no!

Please tell me to stop being so bloody impatient about everything and chill!!

I know i will have still to wait for a place and that could be months. I am counting the days, i cross one off every morning off the calendar. Maybe it wont seem so long once i have turned the calendar over to february Heres hoping. Thats their deadline so who knows, might even know before!

Fingers crossed!!

What date did your Mum give in her letter?

5th December i think...i know it has come and gone though.

Thank you. x

if you owe £320 to the social fund you can up it to £812 so you could ask for just short of £500 which could help towards costs?? my situation was shocking, my abusive ex left me no choice but to leave my parent's home, i took a private let because they werent quick enough he was turning up at 4am demanding threatening and ringing ambulances to my door, the private let conditions where bad, affecting our health so dr and hv wrote letters but council said it was up to landlord to sort it, had council out to look at the state and they said they couldn't force the landlord to fix it...i shit you not!

if they can the council will do anything to not help x

I know what thats like, our midwife phoned environmental health regards of the state of the property we were living in when expecting little one, they sent a letter to our landlord stating the things that needed to be done and givinig him a time span to do them within, what happens next...we got n otice to quit!! The council in northampton did rehouse us, they didnt have much other option at 8months pregnant with no where to go! I am hoping i wont resort to the social fund, as i was hoping the council would help, even if only with a rent in advace and deposit bond, and could then use the social fund for furniture as i have absolutely Pee ALL.

Ellen, perhaps the housing advisor has pointed this out but even if you are deemed to be in need of housing in Bexley and get on the waiting list there are about 10,000 people already on the list. All of them are in housing need. Many of them will be in the same or worse positions than you. Bexley is an area with very little turnover of tenants, so only about 600 are housed every year.

So even if you get on the list, it's unlikely to solve your current problem for a very long time.

However, as you say, if you get on the list you may qualify for help with rent deposit etc to rent privately.

I think you need to plan towards that.

Oh bollards. I had a two bedroom flat in Bexley that needed someone to move in four weeks ago. Wish I knew you needed it as would have told the landlord. Try and go into Erith council offices and speak to them. It's the one on the roundabout with the big fish. Make sure you have all documents with you. They should be able to help.

I used to work in social housing and I just want to clear a couple of misconceptions. If Ellen's homelessness application is accepted, it means more than being accepted onto the housing register, it means the Council accepts that it has a duty to house her and will find temporary accommodation immediately. Often this means bed and breakfast, but some councils have special hostels some even have flats for this purpose.
Secondly, Members of Parliament have absolutely nothing to do with Housing or homelessness applications through the Local Authority and have no clue about the legislation involved.
Thirdly, Housing Associations offer their social housing to tenants put forward by Local Authorities as deemed the most in 'Housing Need'. This is usually done via a points or band system - the (Common) Housing Register. A housing association that is a charitable organisation and rents to someone who applies to them directly is very likely in breech of the legislation and the terms of their charity status.
The CAB are worse than useless at matters of homelessness btw. But Shelter are very good indeed.

Fiendish we've been through all that on other threads. I can tell you that in Bexley there is such a lack of housing OP might be offered a B&B if she's lucky, miles away. OP and her son are currently at her mum's, a situation which is undesirable to her but not overcrowded, unsafe or unsuitable. Her mum wrote a letter saying she couldn't stay forever and was required to leave (I think in December) but she's still there, so the threat of "eviction" isn't even credible.

The point I have been trying to make to OP is that she is unlikely to be judged homeless, and would be wise to have a "Plan B".

I live in Bexley - my friend was "evicted" (agreement between her and the LL that this would happen) at the end of her tenancy (he wanted to sell) and shes still in temp accomodation with a disabled child. She is ~allegedly ~ first on the list for a 3 bed house when one comes up on the bidding. She was told she would be in temp for 10 days. That was 3 weeks before Christmas.

Thanks olgaga, I hadn't seen the other threads but all you have said is true, of course. It's a subject I feel quite strongly about and I saw the usual 'contact your MP' and 'go to the housing associations direct' at the top of the thread.
Should her mum have carried out the threat of eviction and she'd turned up at the council offices with a suitcase her homelessness application might have stood more of a chance (believe me, I've seen this). Where I worked, the b and b offered was many many miles away - pretty deliberately I have to say, to separate the truly desperate.
Plan B is the right move here; which, of course, means a private rent.
Bexley are infamous for their hard-line approach, but I'm sure that has been said before as well.

I just want them to say they will help, even if they only put me on the rent deposit scheme! and to know an ANSWER! Same as with my divorce and contact really. Would rather he had no contact and i suppose the longer it takes, the longer it is before i have to see ex again, but want the divorce so i can move on asap....and change my name! Decided I will change it by deed poll, to my grandmothers name, a name my ex doesnt know! Perfect.