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AIBU?

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To cry because I'm just so tired

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dollywashers · 27/01/2012 20:22

I'm a single parent. I have two lovely amazing girls. But I am so tired. Just so so tired. Most of the time. AIBU just to have a cry about about nothing in particular and just generally feel sorry for myself tonight. Being a Mummy is hard isn't it?

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ILoveSanta · 27/01/2012 20:26

Nope, cry away. It's good for you. Being a mummy is very hard, and I have a DH to help me unless he is working away (which he only does for about a third of the year), so you cry away.

Cassettetapeandpencil · 27/01/2012 20:26

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preciousmuch · 27/01/2012 20:28

it's Bleddy hard with 2 and I'm not a single parent. I'm sure it must be isolating for you at times. Do you have any support at all? Are they at home with you all the time or are they older?
My husband's away a lot and I find it soooooo difficult at times especially when they're ill or mardy. Don't feel bad about crying, it's unhealthy to keep it in. Go easy & don't try to be perfect all the time - that way madness lies...

GwendolineMaryLacey · 27/01/2012 20:29

YAdefNBU. I have two amazing girls and a DH and I could cry because I'm so tired. I take my hat off to anyone who holds it together by themselves, I'm struggling now even with his 'help'.

Have good cry then a glass of wine/crate of choc/whatever cheers you up. You deserve it.

hiddenhome · 27/01/2012 20:31

Perhaps you should have a checkup just to make sure you're not anaemic or have low thyroid levels etc.

Rhodiola Rosea (siberian golden root) is very good for chronic tiredness. Vitamin B Complex is also good and some people take Ginseng, but I found it gave me palpitations.

Other than that, try to get some early nights.

flippinada · 27/01/2012 20:31

YANBU, it's exhausting.

I'm a single parent though I just have one and sometimes I feel like this! It is exhausting - during the week I don't have much time to anything apart from cook, clean, work and sleep and sometimes it gets me down.

Do you ever get a break?

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 27/01/2012 20:34

Cry away. Maybe have a to go alongside your cry? Or run a nice bath.

YANBU by the way. I have just one child and a usually supportive DP and I still have a good old cry from pure exhaustion every few days!

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dollywashers · 27/01/2012 20:39

Thank you all. Your kindness made me cry even more!

I don't get much of a break. The girls are with me all the time. My Mum v occasionally looks after them when I have a night out. Not really anyone else to have them. Most days that's fine. Today I just feel like I could have happily laid down on the street and had a cry and a sleep. Just exhausted and need an early night I think. Tomorrow is another day. :)

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Cinquefoil · 27/01/2012 20:41

YANBU.

I am not a single parent, and I am exhausted all the time. (And wanting to cry.)

Can you give yourself some time to do something lovely for yourself?

GiveMummyTheWhizzer · 27/01/2012 20:42

I am an absolute bugger for crying when I am tired, you are not alone. DP thinks I am odd and that I am crying about something I just don't want to tell him about - but nope, sometimes I really don't know why I'm crying - but I always feel better afterward.

YANBU

flippinada · 27/01/2012 20:44

It sounds like you could do with some time to yourself dollywashers.

Would your mum have your girls overnight just so you could have an evening to yourself at home and do stuff like read a favourite book, watch a dvd, have friends pop round for a drink/chat (or whatever you find enjoyable/relaxing?)

I like nights out but sometimes a quiet night in by yourself is just what you need to recharge and refresh.

motherinferior · 27/01/2012 20:45

Oh lovely, I wanted to cry ALL the time when mine were little. Even with their father around. Tiredness is a total killer.

flippinada · 27/01/2012 20:46

Btw how old are your girls?

If they are a bit older, could they (for example) help out around the house and take some pressure off you?

ballstoit · 27/01/2012 20:52

YANBU. Am LP of 3, with lots of family help...I have the occasional week when I get no visitors or company, and it pretty much almost makes me cry

What's the plan for the weekend lovely? Hope your DDs will be spending at least a few hours watching DVDs while you lay on the sofa eating chocolate xx

ilovezumba · 27/01/2012 21:07

Yes it is hard being mum and I still have a cry normally on a Friday night as I'm so exhausted after a busy week and I'm a SAHM with a DD3 and Dd5.

Let it out and have a good cry but make sure you get plenty of sleep and rest when you can and bugger the house work on the weekend and spend Saturday morning on the sofa while the kiddies play .

You deserve a break too so don't feel guilty, it will get easier

Naoko · 27/01/2012 21:08

Not even slightly unreasonable. I don't even have DC and I've been known to cry with sheer exhaustion. Be kind to yourself. Early night sounds good. Also little things that make you feel better - for me it's fancy (expensive, thus rationed...) tea, a long hot bath and watching tv in bed with the remote all to myself.

larks35 · 27/01/2012 21:33

Of course yanbu, poor you it must be hard to cope alone. I have just one DC atm and a very hands-on DP, but am 30weeks pregnant with DC2 and work full-time. I had a cry in the loo at work yesterday as stress got to me. Got home late after a parents' evening and had letter from doc to say I am anaemic (blood test 2 weeks ago) and had prescription for iron supplements. This weirdly made me feel so much better, as it kind of validated this strangely hyper-tense, stressed-out, losing the plot mood I've been in for the last few weeks. If you have been feeling like this for a while do go and get yourself checked out as you may well be anaemic.

In the meantime, cry away, maybe into the bottom of this

thepeoplesprincess · 27/01/2012 21:51

Go for it

I had a good cry earlier from sheer boredom, so you're def NBU.

MischeviousMum · 27/01/2012 22:08

After about a week of being a first time mum I cried, I have a DH he asked why I was crying I said cause I was so tired and I was crying for all the single parents out there. I've sobbed for you, you sob away pet!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/01/2012 23:40

It's horrible to be so bone tired, OP, I think most people would cry. I haven't any advice for you, just wanted you to know that I hear you. :)

randommoment · 27/01/2012 23:46

yanbu at all. Would you like another tissue? goodnight and godbless xxx

ballstoit · 28/01/2012 15:09

Hope you got a good nights sleep op and feel a bit brighter today

NorthernWreck · 28/01/2012 15:29

How old are your dd's? If they are really little just remember it will get loads easier.
If the kids are little, and if you have any friends with similar age dc's maybe try and organise minding each others kids/playdates sometimes.
You would have to have one extra sometimes, but you would get the time to your self sometimes too.

Can you talk to your mum about babysitting a bit more often? I know that can br tricky, but it's worth talking to her and asking.

Hope you got an early night and are feeling a bit better.

Meglet · 28/01/2012 15:32

Yanbu. I'm a LP and actually looked forward to a hospital apt with sedation this week as it meant I could have a sleep .

BratinghamPalace · 01/02/2012 04:39

YANBU, in fact I am going to join you, sniffs anf takes tissue. Being a mum is very hard and when tired I feel like I am bad at it. Sniffs, will we have some chocolate with the tea?

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