to play the heavily pregnant lady card..

[biddysmama]

its my due date tomorrow, its also fils birthday and mil is putting on a spread and everyones going round, it will be loud and cramped and everyone will ask me why i havent had the baby yet, like its my fault and give me advice on how to get labour started.. i have not got the energy for it at all, i need rest (i have a 10 year old,2 year old and 17 month old,dh works 6am-4.30pm mon-fri and 6am-12 saturdays) if i send dh and the children and go into labour my mil will insist he leaves the children and since i found the 17 month old wandering around the dog shit garden once when i'd only gone to the loo and left her watching him i dont want that.....

anyway, aibu for telling them we wont be there and getting dh to drop cards and gifts off tonight?

Nope, YANBU. But it might be hard explaining why NONE of you can go...perhaps suspicious 'maybe-labour' pains???

God no YANBU in the slightest. You are ridiculously pregnant. Once that happens, everything else goes out the window. It's the law.

Agree with mistress about the fake labour, although it'll only up the stupid questions three-fold.

YANBU but hard to get round the option of you staying home and them going. For you all not to go might be tricky to pull off, especially as its not your first so not perhaps quite as "huge" IFYSWIM

Who is supposed to be looking after the DCs when you go into labour? Could you stay at home but let DH go with the DCs, but be firm about not leaving them with PIL in the event that he has to return to take you to the hospital? Perhaps with the excuse that they don't have their overnight things with them and 2 yr old won't sleep without Rabbit?

How about 'an emotional wobble' then? No-one will DARE to ask anything about that, even if you weren't ridiculously pregnant

I'm nearly 39wks, so sympathise totally.

YANBU at all,& this from me who got a proper ctas bum face from my in laws for not going to sils dds 1st bday party,5 days before my due date,i was massive,it was the hottest summer for ages & it was an outside party.

Sil rung me up the next day to shout at me & said how upsetting it was for her dd not having us there,she was 1 ffs i doubt she knew who was there or not.

Dont bother going op,make the most of being at home & good luck.

YANBU at all. You should be putting your feet up and relaxing before the baby arrives. Your DH should be with you in case you go into labour and well, the kids can't go without either of you can they!

YANBU
being heavily pregnant is a bit rubbish - get the benefit from it while you can.
I would be claiming twinges/braxtons/backache/swollen ankles. Let DH handle the not leaving the DC bit in the unlikely event that you need to.

Make up a slight, vague 'bug for the youngest (he can't tell the truth). And no, YANBU.

YANBU to give it a miss yourself, but YABU to stop your DH and children going if they want to. In fact if I were you I'd want them to go so i could have a few hours rest.

DTBIC- what an idiot your SIL must be, surely one year on she can't have forgotten what it's like to be heavily pregnant in high summer!

My dad turned 80 a week after DS (pfb) was due and several months in advance, he told me that whether or not I'd had the baby by then, I wouldn't be up for a party, so held a seperate one a month early for DH and me. As it turned out, DS was 10 days late so we (just) made the official celebrations as well!

Yes who should be having the children when you are in labour?

Will they also be at the party? If you are trusting them to look after the children while you are in labour can you trust them at MILs house to keep them out of the garden etc?

If not at the party, can DH drop them off at the persons house on his way to collect you? Using the reason that he won't want to leave you later on to sort out childcare, and he has all the car seats in his car so would have to come and get them and drop them off and needs to get their overnight things etc.

Can he just go to the party for an hour and then come straight home with the children?

How long is the party and how long do your labours usually last? If the party is short ish and the labour longer i would stay home, let him go but not call him if you find yourself in early labour. With a bit of luck, baby will come tonight and then there is no problem.

im having a home birth and my sister will be coming to look after the little ones :)

i usually have a few hours contracting then 10 mins pushing, aslong as my waters dont break then its not too bad, the littlest was caught by his daddy because the mw wasnt fast enough didnt believe me when i said to hurry up

YANBU i went to DN's 'teaparty' at 2 days over as i felt bullied, spent two hours sitting on a hard wooden chair watching a two year old ignore presents and trying to fend off the sword to stomach blows.

Plus side- i started to get pains and said i'd like to go home to walk the dog and got contractions while i was walking him, had baby next afternoon no need to go back to the mayhem and 'curry?,pineapple?stairs?'!

Let DH take the kids as it'll give you a break. Just give him strict instructions to bring them home (perhaps say to MIL that your sis is already there and you want all your babies around you after the birth). Good luck!

YANBU you'll be knackered with a 2 year old, and a 17mth and being pregnant I'm sure they can see why you don't wanna go.