to implement a star-chart reward system for DH?

[SlightlyJaded]

Seriously?

I was posting on another thread ( the one with the mad woman who shreds socks) and I remarked that my DH does help around the house (a bit) but in the style of my four year old DS - like a small child seeking out praise and gold stars).

There are many many tasks that I find myself nagging frequently asking him to do and it is like reminding a small child.

Me: Could you please try and fix the pan drawer? I've tried myself and can't do it

Him: with face. What now?

Me: Well why not now?

Him: I've just got in from work and there's a thingy on the telly I want to see

Me: Well ok. But can you look later because the whole drawer will fucking collapse in a moment and I have really tried

Him: ....maybe....we'll see etc etc

So I am wondering, IF we were to shove a third star chart up (next to the DCs) that included things like:

Attend to minor DIY
Pick up clothes
Wash up rather than leave everything 'to soak'
Take rubbish out without being asked
Dismantle swaying tower of tshirts from bedroom chair
Make bed if you are last out

Might his four-year old, reward hungry brain, feel more inclined?

Obviously there would have to be actual rewarding involved and negotiated (and I think shagging is probably not appropriate payment so not quite sure what this might be....)

Should I try?

I might consider implementing the same too, and i'd add cleaning your own pee from the toilet seat onto it too

I love this! I'm going to make one for DP and his reward can be football on the Telly!!

Good reward Natasha. This is where my plan falls down slightly as I cannot think of something tempting enough at the moment (don't think new 'Mr Man book' is going to cut it)

We have implemented Special Agent Oso's three special steps.
Step 1 - prepare to do the task
Step 2 - do it
Step 3 (the tricky one) - put everything back where it came from.

It's effective and can be adapted to any situation :o

Tootles do you sing the song? Does it help?

Yes and yes, he hates it but I'm sure he's thinking it in his head as so far he's stuck to his New Year resolution to help me keep a tidier house.

The DDs had earning holiday spending money charts.
They made one for DH too.
Trouble was he very quickly ended up with a negative number of Euros.

Saw a star chart which rewarded for "going to bed on time" the other day.

No wonder the country's doomed!

I gave my DH a deep BJ one Saturday morning and then moaned in the afternoon that after the morning delight he would have been more helpful at the weekend. He's now a lot more helpful on the expectation of a repeat performance.

Im going to do this with DP.

Everytime he manages the horrendously difficult task of putting the lid back onto anything he's opened, he can have a star!

Faced with DH smugly shuffling next to a minor completed domestic task I stole your line OP and asked if he'd like a star for his reward chart.

I was amused but longterm I've obviously blown any help over the weekend.

Bless his little cotton socks [small thin weak smiley, crushed under the gender split brought on by the birthing process]

Where's the Guardian reading, feminist, equal oppurtunity, cooking, cleaning monster I married. I was tricked, it was all a front and now he wants a gold star for putting a mug near the dishwasher.

TYSWY Snorted at 'near the dishwasher'

I too was tricked, although his true shuffling, evasive, procrastinating, colours were not revealed until we had our first DC.

Like with a small child, I am going to have to start by offering him a gold star for every bastard thing, including not leaving smelly socks tucked into shoes which are left on the floor next to the sofa because that's where he took them off.

Then once he's got the taste for them, they shall become more elusive and harder to win.

Genius

It's a bit Grimm but I might try training mine with little trails and pockets of Haribos. If it works I shall be writing a book with my 'expert' knowledge - tis after all what the millionaire childcare guru do. Then as the ultimate reward I shall build him a massive Gingerbread Shed.