To be a nosy neighbour? Or do I just need to get out more?

[PiousPrat]

My living room and kitchen are at the front of the house, so I spend a fair bit of my day being able to see the road outside out of the corner of my eye. In the 4 months since DS3 was born and I have been at home, I've seen police cars pulling up to the house opposite a lot. A very lot. 6 so far this week and it is only Friday, including one at 4am today (DP got called out to work and had to ask the police to move their car forward as there wasn't enough space to swing off the driveway, I don't usually sit up all night watching the road ;) )

I think cabin fever might be getting to me a bit, as I keep catching myself pondering out loud to myself about why they are there so much. I even considered going over and speaking to their neighbour as she is a proper curtain twitcher and bound to have an idea of what is going on. I didn't and soon slapped a bit of sense into myself that this would be taking the nosiness to far, but I am still intrigued and have to hoik my judgey pants out of my arse every time I see the Mum of the family who lives there at the shop.

IABU aren't I? I need to get myself to a baby social group or claim a bench by the duck pond as my own and spend my days watching the birds rather than the neighbours don't I? Or is it ok to be a bit nosy curious about the comings and goings, so long as the neighbours don't know and I never speak to anyone about it?

YOur neighbour p robably gave her kids a mars bar in their lunchbox? Just a guess

I don't know how you can hoik your pants up considering you have nothing to judge

She might have witnessed a serious crime and be helping with their enquiries

Or it could all be a smoke screen for the fact the Police are actually watching your house whilst she feeds them tea and Hobnobs

But please update if you ever find out cos I'm fucking nosey curious too!

Endangered

Or maybe she was found posting in the wrong section of MumsNet

EndangeredSpecies - no a fruit shoot and greggs sausage roll.

On a serious point, I live on a new build estate and we have police cars around here a lot. There was a lot of bother from kids and things hanging around to begin with, because it was all new and new places for them to hang out in. Then the local drug dealer moved in across the road, I actually quite enjoyed him being there as he was a very friendly fellow, told the local yobs to hop it when required etc etc. Only think I didn't miss was his singing at the top of his voice when he came passed after a night out in the pub. Oh and we had a corrupt police officer at one point, who's own home was raided for drugs and he was arrested for beating up the mother of his children too. This all sounds very exciting but I live in a sleepy Norfolk village......

And FGS don't go and claim a bench by the duckpond you might start feeding them and then they'll be knocking on your door at 4 a.m. and slap an asbo on you.

Yes you need to get out more. Could be lots and lots of innocent and not so innocent reasons. From being a victim of a serious crime to being a criminal family. But in reality as long as you are not actually DOING anything e.g. gossiping about them, there is no harm in looking.

I admit if I was you I would be tempted to visit the nosy neighbour.

when my kids were small I was a bloody expert in the comings and goings of the benefit cheats who lived across the road

the mum once told me how much she and her partner claimed, she knew she was cheating the system and was quite proud of this, and it was more than I earned and so got right up my nose and i USED TO STARE whenever they moved about

they probably sat in the house and had a good laugh at my nosiness

thankfully they've moved andnowistareatthenewneighbours

was dying to report them but dh wouldnt let me

Might the husband be a police officer popping home?

I did consider that Worra, then decided she must be really bloody helpful as it's been at least 4 visits a week for months now. It'd be a very cunning bluff if they were watching me hides still under the pram as half the time they are stood on the front lawn, talking to the son through the window as she is out at work and he doesn't have a front door key to let them in. Maybe they carry an elaborate series of mirrors to secretly watch me over their shoulders while they have their backs to me :)

Do you have a front garden? It might be time for some weeding next time they show up.

Not a police officer husband, as far as I can make out it is a single Mum with a mid-teen son and late teen daughter and a boyfriend who is there a few times a week but doesn't seem to live there. Unless she is married to a copper, in which case I admire her energy, working, raising 2 kids and having a husband yet still having the energy to take a lover every time her husband is on nights

Fimbo I am dying to know which sleepy village now, I used to live a few miles North of Norwich in a slightly sleepy village which had none of the interesting undercurrent yours does! Unless it did and I just never noticed.

Or is your neighbour having an affair with a policeman? As soon as he gets any time off e.g. lunch break, at the end of a shift and your neighbour is on her own, he nips round?

A work colleague's husband was murdered a year ago. She moved in with her parents. She used to say herself that the neighbours probably wondered what was going on as the police were round a lot for months - because of complications, etc with case. So could be a tragic raeson.

Ffs! That mum was me this time last year when my teen went through a bad phase!
Nice to know the neighbours would be judging on top of everything else we were going through! It could be you in a few years op!

Thanks to the teenagers board here and other help, we came through it and dd is now back to her lively self, focusing on getting through her gcse's into her career of choice.

South of Norwich Pious.

you sound like my mil, she saves it all up and tells me everything from how long they left their washing on the line to what time they opened their curtains, my favourite one was the guy across the road didnt fetch his wheely bin in till the day after "he should know better, being a fireman"

My next door neighbour is CID...you wouldn't tell by looking as obviously he is plain clothes and drives an unmarked car, but there are often police friends visiting in police cars - often on a lunch time to let the dogs out , and he's been known to borrow a patrol car if he's blocked in etc, is her boyfriend the policeman?!

The boyfriend drives a works van. I doubt I would have noticed the same car parking there a few times a week, but the van kind of stands out and is usually directly opposite my kitchen window, which is above the sink where I spend a fair amount of time.

Noticing several police cars and wondering about the reason for the many visits is hardly in the same league of curtain twitching as keeping a log of bin movement, surely?