to feel in new mum limbo?

[Newmummytobe79]

Not sure if this is normal? Or just me

But does anyone/did anyone feel a bit in limbo after your first child?

I'm not sure what to wear anymore! Are short skirts a no no even if your legs are your best bit? Should I dress smart? Do I still look ok when I'm out without my baby ... or a bit of a tired mess?

When do you start feeling like a proper mum - not just someone who is babbling along looking after a tiny person?

Does my DH still fancy me? (he says he does!)

etc etc etc!

Ahhhhhhhh!

and don't iron or cook from scratch!

Done!

My kids are at school now but I still sometimes think that any minute now a 'proper' adult will turn up to look after them!!! There are days when I feel about 4 1/2 myself. I would say your feelings are all completely normal. But don't worry about the small stuff, just enjoy your new baby.

Just wear what you want. Some days I am nearly turned out, other days I am a scruff bag. You are still you, you just have a baby!

I don't iron either, but I couldn't not cook from scratch as I hate pre made stuff.

My son is 2 & I still feek like a pretend mummy. Everyone else seems so grown up!

YABU to use the term 'new mum' , but YANBU to feel this way.

I have a 16 month old and I still don't know 'what it's like to be a mother'. Ask somebody who actually is a mother, I always think to myself.

Denim skirts, tights and boots seems to be the sartorial way forward now, if that's any help.

second the denim skirts / tights / boots. As a shortarse i get so fed up with wet jean hems (am the wrong shape for tucked into boots jeans). I do know what you mean but I think if you have clean hair, a swipe of face powder and lipstick you can pretty much carry off most situations! Do you have any other new mum friends (not sure what's wrong with "new mum" BTW)? I would disagree slightly about the housework, I always found it made me feel worse if the house was a tip and believe me, its easier to stay on top of stuff with a baby than a toddler! At least they still nap! Seriously, make some friends if you can with people in the same boat and get to know them well enough so you can be honest.

Ok currently on DC number 4 who is 3 weeks old, still in awe sometimes at the enormity of being responsible or four little people and as far as clothes...still in maternity leggings, not wearing a bra ( easier for when hauling boobs out ) vest top on and dressing gown :o

DH says he still fancies me and loves me.

I have never felt more sexy

Do what you feel and bugger what everyone else thinks, it's all about what you feel comfortable with :)

A small disclaimer though...I will be putting a bra on and removing dressing gown when doing the school run :o

I still wear my skinnies and converse! Only change is the underwear...

My fashion issues were down to the fact that I'd stopped working & wasn't used to only wearing casual stuff. I also felt out of touch after a year spent in maternity/built only for comfort clothes & had relatively little money, time or inclination to clothes shop. So, even 2 years on I have random high fashion days just for the he'll of it. Although 7 months pregnant so back to hugely fat, t shirt & jeans phase yet again.

Agree with stranded, although do love cooking from scratch, but am smugly filling the freezer with meals for when baby is born as we speak. These will of course run out precisely 1 week into new baby fug, so chicken kievs & take sways it is!

I felt like I'd never get my life back, but one day I realised that I kind of had (although replace day trips to London with day trips to the zoo!). You'll be fine!

at the denim skirt - didn't realise it was 'new mum' uniform, there was me feeling all pleased with myself in my brand new denim skirt with baby sick down the side already

I bought myself a lovely new wardrobe full of pre-pregnancy size clothes to wear after the baby was born, cheer myself up after maternity wear horror and encourage myself to drop the weight. Nine weeks on and nothing fits at all :(

There are no denim skirts in there though - I am not dropping my style because I have had a baby.

It may be a while before I can wear any of that lot though and am still in wrap dress and leggings territory. :(

I am hoping DH still fancies me but we have both been too tired too find out. If I am lucky it will turn out he has a "thing" for stripey jelly bellys :)