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...to think I didn't pay for parenting advice with my Taxi fare?

48 replies

ginnybag · 27/01/2012 09:19

On Friday morning's I drop my DD, just turned 2 last week, at her Childminder's house. Most weeks we walk, but this week she's been full of a cold, has a rattly cough and it was absolutely pouring down. I though better of getting her soaked wet through.

I could have put her in the pram but a) she isn't fond of it, b) it means I get soaked wet through and I have a 9am meeting that I have to presentable for - not look like a drowned rat.

I called a taxi (with appropriate car seats etc!). It arrives. We get in. I strap us both in the back and off we go.

DD sat very nicely. She babbled at me a bit, but not overly loudly or anything. There was no kicking of seat backs or jumping up and down.

After I dropped her off, Taxi Driver asks me why I got the taxi. I replied 'too far for her to walk, she's too heavy for me to carry that far and she hates her pram.' I wasn't really paying attention, to be honest, just answering off-hand.

My mistake.

Cue hissing though teeth and... "well, that's what's wrong with modern parents. You let the child dictate. You shouldn't let her do that. You should take control. Just don't give her a choice. What do you think mothers in the wild do? If the child misbehaves they give them a nip! That's what you should do - if she plays up, give her a smack!"

I was too shocked to respond - and I'm normally the first to argue back - so I said nothing other than directions for the rest of the trip to work.

Didn't stop him from adding - "good luck training your child!" as I shut the door.

I'm fuming, so I'm on here blowing off steam. Am I right to be?

OP posts:
discobeaver · 27/01/2012 13:46

I so love 'mothers in the wild'
I am definitely going to give my kid a nip next time they get out of line! Rofl.
I mean woof.

Florieinaweddingdress · 27/01/2012 14:58

How helpful of you, birds, to say something rude to the OP so she can practice telling you to shut up.

Birdsgottafly · 27/01/2012 15:42

Florie- i was being realistic not rude, but if the OP wants to practice saying "shut up", to learn how to reply to people who are upsetting her, i am happy to practised on.

She could also practice general communication as well, though, it comes in handy. So many people on MN seem terrified to open their mouths.

Tee2072 · 27/01/2012 16:07

I have to agree with birds here. The amount of people on MN who 'don't like confrontation' disgusts me.

Speak up. You have a voice for a reason.

TheRhubarb · 27/01/2012 16:21

Here's one example OP of how you could speak up

BIRDS AND TEE YOU ARE BEING PARTICULARLY UNHELPFUL AND NOBBISH AT THIS PRECISE MOMENT IN TIME BECAUSE EVERYONE HAS A BAD DAY WHEN THEY DON'T PERFORM WELL IN THE COMMUNICATION SECTOR AND EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO RANT

Sorry to shout, that was me confronting posters.

Tee2072 · 27/01/2012 16:35

Rhubarb there ya go! Way to do it!

::patronizing pat on the head in response to the headache I have just been given due to the shouting::

FFS

Birdsgottafly · 27/01/2012 16:40

Posters are suggesting contact this drivers employers which is ridiculous, though. If you don't answer people, they think that you are listening and taking it in Confused

We don't communicate effectively by shouting, btw, but i am not going stear the thread in a different direction.

TheRhubarb · 27/01/2012 16:40

I'm having a bad Mumsnet day, everything I say today seems to be taken the wrong way and I've been told already to "shut my mouth" and that I'm "rude and unhelpful" for suggesting that someone might have better advice on their local private versus state school in Netmums. So I don't see these non-confrontational posters about, instead I just see posters who are gunning for a fight.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 27/01/2012 16:47

I just thought this thread was started by someone who had a mildy annoying taxi ride and wanted to share her mild annoyance.

Not sure why it is turning into a narky fight.

TheRhubarb · 27/01/2012 16:49

It's me MrsDeVere, every thread I'm today is turning into a narky fight.

I do apologise!

NoMoreInsomnia12 · 27/01/2012 16:50

I get that sometimes. There is one checkout lady at the supermarket who can't help dispensing parenting advice. I just politely tell them they are talking bollocks.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 27/01/2012 16:51

No it isnt just you Rhubarb Smile

I dont think I have seen a benign thread on MN all week!

TheRhubarb · 27/01/2012 16:54

I think I might start my own quiche - people who turn perfectly reasonable threads into narky threads by their mere presence.

Um, no bit long.

Tee2072 · 27/01/2012 17:00

I'm not gunning for a fight at all. I just happen to agree that if you don't speak up, the person who is being rude/unreasonable/what have you won't know that.

And I expressed my opinion thereof.

For the record, I also tend to do what Hully said up thread and bait the morons who do that for my own amusement. They get so very ranty. Especially if it's religion based here in Belfast.

But I do think if it upset the OP that much, the time to do something was then. Not make an complaint now.

TheRhubarb · 27/01/2012 17:02

I didn't mean you Tee, I meant in general.

Narky in general is Mumsnet atm.

Tee2072 · 27/01/2012 17:33

Yeah it really is. Not even a full moon!

RevoltingPeasant · 27/01/2012 17:42

In the wild, feral women often attack mouthy taxi drivers and feed chunks of their bleeding flesh to their young.

Aroooooooooooo.

TheProvincialLady · 27/01/2012 17:48

I got told last night that I should sell my house and move to a different area as I could get a much better house. Who cares? If you don't like it a simple "when it's any of your business I'll be sure to let you know" never fails to offend.

Lancelottie · 27/01/2012 17:52

I had a good one from the postie on DS's birthday: 'All them parcels! Must be all right to be some folk and have money to throw away.'

Errm, what?

QuintessentiallyShallow · 27/01/2012 18:01

Guys, actually.

It is spelt Vagineers. Like with Musketeers.

GoingForGoalWeight · 27/01/2012 18:10

Next time an utter socially inept fuckwit asks you a question you'd rather not answer say, "It is not up for discussion" and smile. Repeat like a broken record if the tit continues.
The driver was disgustingly impolite. I'm sorry this happened to you. Do not use the firm again and perhaps speak to his boss.

QuintessentialyHollow · 27/01/2012 18:15

I did not mean to post HERE!! Shock

TheRhubarb · 27/01/2012 19:34

Sure you didn't Quint.

Good answer though!

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