to walk away from work 3 days before my last day because I'm angry and upset, maybe for a stupid reason?

[onmyhighhorse]

Some perspective would be really helpful, but please don't be too damning as I?m pregnant and I think my upset may be hormonal and not reasonable (hence why I?m asking!).

I'm 23 weeks pregnant and decided to resign from my current employer because my work is very stressful. It is stressful because my manager is amoral, unethical and a nasty piece of work. However, he is very senior within the company so complaining would have been useless.

My resignation means that I forefeited maternity pay. I just could not work a moment longer as I really cannot stand this man and it has become a personal dislike as well as a professional one. I don?t want him to have any reach, influence or power over my life. Having worked for him for over 3 years, I've paid my dues but I was not willing to risk the health of my pregnancy as I was so stressed out by him.

Having worked 3 months notice, I now have 3 days left until the end of the month.

Bonuses and pay-rises were given today. When I say bonus, I don't mean anything monumental, just a back-office compensation within financial services. I'm (disproportionately??) angry and upset that I was not given a bonus, nor was it explained to me why I did not get one.

Per our compensation policy, the bonus is paid in respect of the year's performance, for which I was assessed well as I have worked very hard in a position of responsibility. There is no clause saying that this is not payable during notice. I know that this was a personal decision made by my manager as we do not get on. This is why I'm upset I think, as well as being hormonal and pregnant!

It's not about the money, it is about the recognition that I worked a good year and extended my notice period to cover the year end (January) as my team were short staffed. I work a lot of extra hours and put in considerable extra effort. I feel that what he has done is unethical, though technically not wrong as a bonus is discretionary.

I'm so disproportionately upset that my efforts haven't been recognised that I don't want to work my final 3 days. I want to leave tonight and let him pick up the huge amount of work he expected me to complete before the 31st.

I'm ready...please tell me how unreasonable I am....but please be gentle because as I said, my petty response could well be down to hormones.

I worked in HR in FS. If you resigned and were on notice at the time the bonus was paid, then you forefeited it. Standard practice. Sorry - you resigned, you left the bonus opportunity as well as the job.

He sounds like a tribunal waiting to happen if other people get bonuses in their notice periods.

In my contract, no bonuses are paid if you've handed in your resignation before the bonus is paid. It's standard at any company I've worked for.

Well done for going in today. Hope you did next to nothing. See how you feel after the weekend, and if you aren't in the mood, call in sick for the last couple of days. And use someone else in the company as your referee, if at all possible. I can imagine this wanker taking pleasure in writing you as negative a reference as he can get away with.

YABU, or over sensitive at any rate.

What EssexGurl just said.

Just feign sickness for the last 3 days if you feel that strongly about it.

Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well

Regarding a reference, just put the name of your HR Manager. It is standard practice in FS to write a very basic, simple reference, that does not in any way refer to your performance in the job.

You can do it - it's only a few more hours - do whatever work will help your colleagues the most and leave anything that helps him directly

Lots of tea & toilet breaks will get you through the next couple of days.

Speak to someone about your bonus.

I would go for presenteeism, do as little as you can get away with.