to want dh to compliment me occassionally.

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So I get my hair done on Monday whilst ds is at school. I pick up ds and he and some of the school mums compliments me on my hair.
DH returns home from work and he said "so you got your hair done than".
Suppose I should be grateful he noticed but a compliment would be better.

Yes it would, I know how you feel. Just putting blind faith in that they still find you attractive/love you/notice you are there etc etc etc gets a bit waring doesn't it?

I was just thinking today about an acquaintence who is always going on on FB about his beautiful wife and how lucky he is. Just once in a while that would be nice!!

Oh well.

xxx

What kind of person is your DH? Has he always been a 'man of few words' or was he formerly a gusher.... and it's only lately that he's stopped complimenting you? On the whole, I find it's best not to leave anything to chance... whether it's a compliment you want, a weekend in Paris or a 'surprise' diamond bracelet for your birthday, I think it's better to flag it well in advance rather than get your hopes up that an unspontaneous person will suddenly change character.

The 'my wife is the most beautiful person in the whole world' FB gusher would make me heave btw..... suspect all that flattery just means they've got a guilty conscience.

I remember before we married getting more compliments, flowers etc.
However, it just doesn't seem to happen anymore.

Some people are useless at compliments, but you can train them. I trained my dad. He was hopeless at compliments and I could see it was upsetting my mum so I would say "Mum's just coming in from the hairdressers, tell her hair looks lovely, no matter what it looks like." And he'd do it, bless him. If I got a new dress or something I would say "Dad I have a new dress, look at it and tell me it's beautiful on me." He'd smile and say "It's beautiful." Over time he got more creative, he'd add "It's a nice colour." Now he gives compliments on his own, but they're a bit bizarre. For example, I got quite a boring, button up dress for work and he said "Cailin you look like a real lady, like the ones I used to admire on my street at home." What he meant was I looked like someone from the fifties, but it was a really nice, thought-out compliment all the same.

Just tell him, then remind him a few times. He'll get better at it.

If you want flowers, ask him. Nice when it's spontaneous, I'll grant you. But, as CailinDana say, some people are a bit thick about these things and need a shove in the right direction before they get the message.

Do you compliment your DH much? Or buy him little presents now and again?

Callin yes I do sometimes.

In that case I think it would be fair for you to say to your DH that you really need to be complimented from time to time, that it makes you feel better. It's one of those things that's easy to forget, especially if it's not something you crave yourself. My DH often compliments my looks but I couldn't give a hoot about how I look so it hardly registers and I have to remind myself to compliment his looks as I know he likes it.

could be worse, my friends DH used to look at the kitchen calender and if she had a hair appointment used to say 'oh hair is lovely darling' till once she cancelled it and didn't go.... he still said it

queen

i have a fb "friend" who is always spouting shite about how much he loves his wife and dc and how he is sooooo lucky

his DW is my best mate and i know from her he is a prize twat who treats her like shite and does fuck all with the dc. so don't always believe the fb hype.