To consider turning down this job?

[lesley33]

This is a genuine question as I can't work out if IABU or not.

I am a manager in a project working with challenging families. But we don't have enough money and so virtually all staff, including me are now on reduced hours. I am on a lot less money, but my DP works full time and we manage financially.

My employer has offered me some hours in the same place as a project worker. These are the staff I currently manage. I am sure these hours have been offered to me as a kind gesture to help make up some of the shortfall in my wages. But I don't want to take them.

I don't want to be a worker and be a manager in the same company. I don't want to take a lower wage and tbh I am worried about my ability to do thsi work. It is what I used to do and I was good at it - but it is quite a few years since I have done it - and I don't want to fail in front of staff I am managing. Also I am quite enjoying the extra time at home.

My DP does want me to take the hours because of the money. But has said it is my decision. So AIBU to want to turn this work down? Or should I just suck up my concerns and take the job for the money? BTW no benefits are affected, so PLEASE don't bring that into this thread.

I think if you're really unsure about your ability to do the role then you would be quite sensible to turn this down. You need to be honest with your manager and thank him/her for the opportunity (so it doesn't seem like you're throwing it back at them IYSWIM?)

Especially if you both can manage without the extra money. Perhaps talk through your concerns with your partner?

It does make sense - thanks both of you

It's hard mentally to do two different jobs. I used to teach and do one to one tutoring which combined only added up to a normal teaching week but bloody hell it was exhausting, I think because I had to switch between two modes. That's the position you'd be in if you took the job. I don't blame you for not wanting it.

Turn it down if you don't want to do it. It will come across that you're not keen whilst you're doing the job otherwise and it will undermine you as the other worker's boss if you don't perform perfectly in their role.