To directly accuse someone of stealing.

[susiesmith]

I am pretty a cousin has paid herself more than she is entitled to from the estate of my late auntie. She has been 'helping' the elderly executor sort things out, and now money is missing. I know the executor would not take the money. He is too honest and also too frail to be capable of going to banks, filling in forms etc.

Would you just confront her with the discrepencies? Or would you contact the banks etc first to check the accounts have been closed (not even sure if they would tell me).
If there is a simple explaination it would be awful to have accused her of theft. And really really do not want to upset the executor who would be mortified if he realised money was missing.

Sorry but rather than accuse someone of theft when you have no evidence, I would go to the executor, frail or not, he is doing the job and should be aware of missing funds.

I wouldn't rush in to accuse anyone of theft, only if absolutely sure and all other options have been investigated.

Thanks sounds like good advice.

If you still want to get an accusation of theft off your chest though, you could try here.