To wish I'd never offered this compromise which I will have to agree to?

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Over the years, whenever my DD1, now 15, has asked for a TV in her room I have said no, and that if she still wanted one she could have one when she was 16. This is despite the fact that DH and I have a TV in our room so obviously v. hypocritical of us. I just didnt want a small/young child/early teen having a TV in their room. Reasons included lack of ability to monitor content, having to remember to switch it off at night, and, I do admit, a certain amount of snobbery - "no child of mine" etc etc etc.

However, she has the memory of a sodding elephant, and 16 is coming up in September (yeah, she's planning it already). So obviously, guess what she wants?!

I'm going to have to give in aren't I??

Let her have the TV but not the aerial cable!

Tell me about stealth - I no longer ride after a road injury. Tarmac is very unforgiving.

Didn't spot that bit Exit. Filthy Will eh.

She is 16. You need to get a grip! She is old enough to move out and get her own place. theoretically Would you be able to ban her from having a TV then??

Whats the big deal with having a Tv in the bedroom anyway? My DS1 is 18 and has probably had one sicne he was small and my 9 year old has 1. I dont as I dont see the point for me - mine is int eh livivng rooma nd I only go to the bedroom to sleep. However the kids are different, theyre in their rooms more. And DS1 has turned into a clever sociable normal teenager - he has not been ruined by a TV in his room. DS2 still does loads other stuff to.

But regardless of subject matter Id be more concerned that you are still trying to control a 16 year old.

Tv but no arial? (I think someone already suggested that?) play dvds only.

You said you'd let her have a TV. You never said anything about an arial

Mine have a tv in their room (11 & 12. yes, I'm 'common' [unrepentant]) it is hooked up to their wii (sin No 2) and also plays dvds, but it can't get any actual channels.

To be hoist by your own petard is to be blown up by your own bomb emoticon

I am really anti TV's in rooms for young children but I don't think it's bad for a 16 year old. Well, my BF who is, IMHO the most wonderful mum of an 18 yr old and 20 yr old DDs let them have TVs in their room at about that age and they are absolutely fine. Good point about getting it after the GCSes though.

I don't think having a tv in your room at 16 is a huge problem.

As to being held to what you said I am always very careful not to agree to anything, even years in advance, but just to say "we'll talk about it again when you are X", thus promising nothing and buying myself time...

"As to being held to what you said I am always very careful not to agree to anything, even years in advance, but just to say "we'll talk about it again when you are X", thus promising nothing and buying myself time..."

shit! wish I'd thought of that 10 years ago...

... if she has a laptop why can't she access the Catchup TV,other on demand services (Iplayer, 4OD etc etc and Sky - if you already have a subscription)

It would save you some money which she could spend on something else ???

Obviously this assumes that you have a reasonable internet contract in your household..

Yeah, sorry, not hugely helpful advice at this juncture op.

Ds is 4 and already bargaining over when he can watch the 12 certificate x-men films, we are talking about it again when he's 10. It wouldn't surprise me at all if he brings it up on his tenth birthday :o

Own TV? Maybe? Yes? No? Negotiate, nothing is set in stone! Why should she "have to have" her own TV in her room? Why separate from the family? Who is paying for it? Are her studies/exams more imporant? What is so great about TV? re-runs of JudgeJudgy, Scrubs, ComeDineWithMe, MarrySnogAvoid, um ...

he will rachel, he will :o

You know I have never understood what all the fuss is about. My dc have had tvs in their rooms for years BUT with the rule that they couldn't switch it on without asking me first. They very rarely watch 'tv' on them tbh, they are used for DVDs when they are ill or sleepovers type of thing. Surely if you set the ground rules at the start there should be no problem?