to want DH to arrange our first wedding anniversary and just whisk me away?

[MistyMountainHop]

we will have been married a year soon and a few weeks ago we decided it would be nice to go away for a couple of nights

so i left it, didn't say anything else and hoped he would sort something. but so far, its been me who has ended up arranging the babysitting (with my mum), have been looking online for where to stay etc. and basically thinking about all the details has been left to me

AIBU to want him to sort out the babysitting, and to think about where we would both like to go, then choose where we are going and book it. and just tell me, this is where i am taking you and its all sorted.

just seems a bit unromantic :(

maybe i am being ungrateful, i don't know!

A small bit of advice. If you want to have lots more anniversaries with the same man then perhaps try to reconsider the level of expectations you have, as it won't serve you well in the long term to potentially resent the fact he doesn't do romantic things for you.
If you want something then talk to him about it and make it happen together.
I reckon I am probably older than you so can say this with some authority. If I am not older than you it's still true anyway .

"but i am angry in that it fucks me off that its always down to the woman to sort babysitting out." That says what you are angry about, but not why you are angry. Put it this way: your anniversary will be more fun for both of you if you let go of your anger.

Well I'm a SAHM so do sort out babysitting etc and all nights away/social stuff as DH works long hours and I'm a tiny bit of a control freak

YABU

It is s bit princessy and demanding.

If you expect this every year, don't count on there being too many anniverseries.

We have had this argument this afternoon! Except I have a voucher for a gorgeous hotel - the voucher is in DHs name, so he had to ring up to book. I asked him to do this weeks ago and I would arrange a meal and childcare. He rang today and they are apparently full. I am livid as I have already arranged everything else.