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Cross about this

29 replies

RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 19:47

I work two lunch times a week in a sandwich shop (Thur/Fri)
In the time I have worked there I have gone in early stayed late, covered shifts for others (including the boss) due to illness/family/holiday and people have done the same for me.
I went in over the weekend when someone was ill (only one person on a weekend) and I have only ever once before been unable to cover something when called.

So Great Auntie (91) has had a heart attack, is in hospital at the other end of the M25 and I was there Monday and arranged to go again today taking my mother with me, I got a text this morning asking if I could go in to work today and I replied Sorry no, I then get a text saying "what are you doing today you will have to make the effort and come in" So I replied Sorry Auntie in Hospital needed there, and I do make the effort I did Saturday. I then get text saying I would only need you 12 till 2 and again I say I can't do it today.
In the end he got someone else to cover it but then text to say he wants me in early tomorrow to "discuss" today.

Right now the only thing I want to say is stuff your fucking job AIBU to think I deserve a little bit better treatment, I do not have any contract and it is min wage.
I am so frigging cross

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 19:50

Oh and I have had 8 hours sleep since Saturday night

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FitForLife · 25/01/2012 19:52

Go through your diary and make a list of all the times you've covered others and gone above and beyond your contracted hours. Just stay calm and factual and he will hopefully stay the same.

Don't blame you for being cross though! Yanbu

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 19:55

Thank you Fit, due to lack of sleep I wondered if I was over reacting.
But I do not like the fact I felt bullied, and I know that if I do not get sleep tonight I am likely to butter him and stick him in a frigging baguette tomorrow Grin

Thankfully Auntie is improving and right now that is all I care about

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TastesLikePanda · 25/01/2012 19:58

DH used to be like you... bent over backwards to help out, never called in sick etc... then his father died suddenly and unexpectedly. The police informed him at 1am. he didn't have much sleep that night. He phoned work the next day to explain why he wouldn't be in and was told to 'be in work by lunchtime or find a new job'

He went to work. Bastards.

Until that manager left he worked ONLY his contracted hours and not a second over.

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 20:00

TLP Sad some bosses are twats so nasty

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SaltResistantSlug · 25/01/2012 20:06

The joy of small companies...

My dad worked for a company for 12 years before he had a sick day. When he finally did he was hauled in to justify himself.

Some people just don't know how to manage. And I think they get a perverse pleasure out of this sort of thing.

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 20:09

I am just really cross and TBH a bit upset

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TastesLikePanda · 25/01/2012 20:11

Yes Rabid - this one was a piece of work.. knobber. We rejoyced when he left!
I did manage to avoid any actual advice in my post though..
YANBU - no way, no how. I like FitForLifes advice... have lots and lots of evidence to back your corner. Do not apologise. Remain calm and if you can afford to leave then to be honest I wouldn't think you have much to lose by walking...

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 20:17

TBH he is leaving has sold up and the take over people have never run a business before so the need the staff to run it, so right now he needs me far more then I need the job, do I want to put up with him for the next 2 weeks though I really don't think I do

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fluffywhitekittens · 25/01/2012 20:21

He is a twat.

MessNessPess · 25/01/2012 20:35

He is so in the wrong.

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 20:36

would seem he has been bitching to a co worked too, just got text

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Honeydragon · 25/01/2012 20:37

He does not need to discuss your attitude. If he brings it up point out her texted to ASK if you could cover out side your contracted hours. You Could not, not WOULD not due to a previously arranged event. Ask how he has construed a attitude problem from the texts and advise you will be holding onto the text s if he wished to make an issue.

If he does not bring it up, be polite and professional all day and smile brightly every time you picture sticking the bread knife in him.

fedupofnamechanging · 25/01/2012 20:40

Don't go in early. Why should you give him your time for free, when he intends to use it to bollock you? Go in at your normal time - if he's got something to say it can be during your paid hours.

Take no shit. You are under no obligation to work shifts that you are not contracted for.

Nagoo · 25/01/2012 20:42

Do your paid time. Don't go in early.

Just smile and nod your way through the next two weeks. Do you know the new people?

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 20:43

Really I think I will tell him to stick it

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 20:47

It would seem the take over people were there when he sent me the text and me No sorry answer was unacceptable, please note I was walking my kids to the bus stop across a duel carriage way and did not have time for an essay, fuck um all

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oiwheresthecoffee · 25/01/2012 20:52

Well. Do you need the job ? Id be tempted to tell him to fuck off as well. But miht be worth going in to chat but dont apologise and highlight you already do far more than you are required to.

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 20:56

TBH I think I could live without £30 in makes me

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 20:57

Thing is I fell a bit sorry for new people and did not want to land shit on the 2 other girls I work with one is a good friend from before this job.

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mopbucket · 25/01/2012 20:58

I have been a childminder for 9 yrs and have only ever taken a week off sick (this was about 3yrs ago) i had chicken pox and glandgerlar fever i lost 3 children that week as parents were cross at me for being ill and they had to cover childcare, wouldn have been so bad but 2 of the children had given me chicken pox Smile

fedupofnamechanging · 25/01/2012 21:00

Just stand your ground then, and tell him you are not obliged to do anything outside of your contracted hours. I would then not do a second over my allotted time until the new people take over. I would also start ignoring his texts - you are not obliged to have any contact with him outside of work time.

bejeezus · 25/01/2012 21:01

Does he know that he runs a sandwich shop and not an A&E department?

Ffs. I've had soooo many jobs/bosses like this. I feel your anger

If I were you, I WOULD go in early, but I would go in an the offensive rather than defensive. Speak first. Tell him, before he opens his gob, that you are happy to work extra shifts whenever you are available and have done on many occassions, you believe in team work. BUT there will be occasions when you can't at short notice because you have a life and are not obligated. AND you don't appreciate HIS attitude. Your text reply was plenty sufficient. You might have not even had your phone with you. Ask him whether he can accept this or would he like to find a different employee

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RabidEchidna · 25/01/2012 21:10

Auntie is 91 uncle is 81 and they have no children in fact they have no one what am I meant to say no sorry get on with it I need to make frigging sandwiches as someone is ill, thing is he was giving me shit and had not even heard back if the other person could cover it

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Cherriesarelovely · 25/01/2012 21:27

He is an absolute git. I hope you manage to tell him what you think before you leave. So sorry you have to put up with this.