To be annoyed with my partner for always waking me up...

[yellowraincoat]

...when he comes in pissed?

First of all, I have absolutely no problem with him going out drinking. He works hard, I'm not keen on going out and he is, I like to have an evening to myself and he doesn't do it too often.

What I do have a problem with is when he comes back when I'm asleep and wakes me up. I've managed to get him to take his shoes off when he comes in, he cannot seem to grasp that I don't want him to put his face right up into mine and tell me he missed me and how cute I look sleeping.

I have really bad insomnia, some nights get no sleep, sometimes only 2 hours at other times I get enough. If I manage to drop off early (as I did yesterday), I am really angry that someone then deliberately wakes me up because they think I look cute and need to convey this right away. After he'd woken me up, I was awake for about half an hour.

If I've asked him once, I've asked him 100 times not to wake me up. Just spoke to him and he apologised, but I KNOW he'll do it again. I know it could be worse, it's nice that he is affectionate when he's pissed, but I am SO sick of being woken up.

Have you got a spare room or comfy sofa? Seems like the only way is on the nights he is drinking assign him to the spare room (or assign yourself). Have a serious chat with him. Explain to him Insomnia is not a laughing condition and it affects your day. When he is sober, obviously.

It's been explained to him time and time again, but he continues to do it. We have a sofa that is sleepable on, I suppose I could tell him to sleep there, but I think he'll just ignore that as well.

Lock the bedroom door? Or wake up really suddenly and poke him in the eye.

well he's blatantly ignoring you - which isn't nice. Usually I'd say just ignore him esp as it doesn't happen often, but you are insomniac - in this case your P should def NOT mess with your sleep.

Put a lock on your bedroom door. when he goes drinking and you go to bed lock it. the next day tell him how cute he looks/ed sleeping on the couch.

Good plan re lock on bedroom door, I never thought of that.

Wish it didn't have to come to that though, wish he'd just listen.

Well, I can think of two ways to drive the matter home.

1. If he ignores sleeping on the sofa when pissed, insist on it for the following week when he's sober enough to not 'forget'.
2. Introduce him to insomnia, and insis he keeps you company in your wakefulness,

One or t'other should get the message across.

you could use that time you lie there awake to keep wishing he'd listen ........... or you could put a lock on the door and ZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [bgrin]

YANBU, really selfish.