To try and engineer DH going out so I can have a girl's night?

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DH is always here and I never get any time to myself. I work full time and go out on the odd weekend in which time he has friends around but he never leaves the house. I really want to have a girls weekend in this weekend, the DS's are staying at their grandparents and so it would just be me and friends. So far he's refusing to go out. Wouldn't be so much of a problem if he didn't really hate my pink friend but she will be there so he really can't be (he loses his temper if he see's pink clothing, it's just not worth the hassle). AIBU to tell him straight that I'd really like the house to myself this weekend?

he loses his temper if he sees pink clothes?

what? I mean - what??

Does he have somewhere to go?

oh, and yes. YABU. You can't order someone out of their home.

You can tell him that if he DARES be rude to your friend, there will be hell to pay, but you can't demand someone gets out of their own home for the evening. It's unreasonable.

If he doesn't want to go out, can't you go round to your friends instead?

He will be rude to her though, without a doubt.

Well, then he's an ignorant shit, isn't he?

He doesn't have to like someone, but he does have to be civil to a guest in your home, someone who is a friend of yours.

How bloody rude he sounds.

Why does he hate her?

Well he doesn't like pink.

Sorry, can't stop laughing at this.

It's just a clash of personalities. He's not normally horrible to my friend, just this one.

He is unspeakably rude to your friend because he doesn't like pink?

I see.

ok.

I'm out.

Go round to her house
Meet in the pub

wtf he is horrible to a person because of the colour clothes they wear.

He is horrible to her cos she wears pink? This friend isn't called Sharon (she of the wine and dead wasp fame) is she?

Ask him if he will read/watch telly in the bedroom. Then you can sneak her in when the door is shut!

Can you go to hers?

It's not unreasonable to ask DH to go out; I've done it myself, just because I'm too tired and stressed to be nice and know that I'll be better in the morning if I'm left alone for a few hours.

It would be unreasonable to make him go out - it's his house too. If he's really so bad as to be rude to your friend because he doesn't like what she's wearing, though, do you want to be in a relationship with someone like that at all?