AIBU to feel that DH makes such a palaver out of every task?

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I dread him starting a job, of any size. Yesterday it was installing the new Virgin Hub doo daa. Drama darling, he deserved a frigging oscar for the exasperated breathing, head in hands, chuffing about the place like a steam train out of control. It did get a bit confusing, granted, but please in the name of god stay calm. Just got such little patience. One other thread the other day said about how much more relaxed house is with DH. OFten times mine is in a vortex of stress that is of his own creation. can they not do anything without all of the hoo haa? AIBU? Or just dismissive

My DH will huff and puff when doing any household task, such as emptying the dishwasher or hoovering,as if to let me know he is doing it and also expects me to be "on standby" to help with everything, including moving things out of the way so he can hoover up. I refuse and tell him he has to manage solo, as I do when I do housework!

Mine has to have a lie down after he's done stuff

My DH is pretty good around the house and does a lot of things that my friends DH's don't do/put off. For that reason I can live with the huffing and puffing and the odd frustrated breakage because life is infinitely easier with that than if he didn't do those things (which incidentally I have no interest in doing )

I am also guilty of huffing and ranting about picking up after the DC and ironing so fairs fair!!

I'm so lucky (I say that a lot. Must sound very irritating) that my boyfriend doesn't make a song and dance about ANYTHING. Even things which I find are too important NOT to make a song and dance about. He's a very handy man and has not one but THREE electric drills, at least two of which never work at the time he needs it.

He can sit on his arse for weeks and do nothing but fart about on his pc, but when he does decide to get a job done he spends the entire day doing loads of jobs, some of which I had no idea needed doing. There's a picture of him on fb with a fag in his mouth, his mobile between his head and shoulder holding a wheelbarrow full of crap he's cleaned out of the water pipe thingies on the roof, a shovel and fork resting on it, a torch in his pocket, gardening gloves in the other, a drill on the garden table, a strimmer and lawnmower on the grass in the background, a box of nails and some random bits of wood dotted about. He gets EVERYTHING out and potters for the entire day, well into the evening.

Luckily he doesn't puff and pant, he just gets on with it. Even though I do all the housework I feel like a fifth wheel when he does it because when I lived with my parents my dad used to make me feel like I was a lazy sod whenever he decided to clean up. If he cleaned up, YOU had to clean up too, never mind if you did loads all week long he'll manage to make you feel like you caused all the mess in the first place and should be helping out!

DP is hopeless at practical stuff. This is the man who, when jacking the car up in the drive to change a wheel manage to puncture the petrol tank. Unfortunately, he also panics. He's not allowed to set up computery things though because he cannot and will not accept how things work if he has decided they should perform differently.

I mainly ignore unless blood is actually shed.

My DH is the man who couldn't get the fluffy bit to fit on the hand held roller paint brush.
After lot's of blue air and pushing and tugging I offered to give it ago and recieved a rant all about "why did I think I could do it when it is obviously faulty"

He then spent 10 minutes trying to find the B&Q bag to find the receipt so he could call the store to complain.

10 minutes on hold and getting more and more irate he nearly exploded when after his rant about substandard B&Q products the advisor told him he needed to remove the cap on the end to slide the roller on

I have started ignoring the huffing and puffing and swearing, too. If I try to intervene or make a suggestion, it turns into a full blown domestic argument. If I pretend that all is right with the world, then no argument follows.

It has taken nearly 10 years of practice and I almost have it right.

omg pmsl @ shineyourbuttons oh god I bet that advisor dined out on that one for a while!!!

My ex-boss was one for insisting things didn't work if she couldn't get it sorted out, or that another member of staff had been messing around with it. She was trying to get a clothes iron back in the box it came from so she could send it back as faulty and it had been packaged between two pieces of polystyrene (sp?) which were moulded to fit the iron. She tried every which way and that to get the pieces to fit onto the iron properly and I could see she had them the wrong way round and tried to tell her. She still didn't get it and I tried to take the iron from her to save her time and she actually pulled away from me like a child! Silly guff

AllIwant is it the same when your partner has lost something? If you DARE to suggest somewhere to look does he splutter and bark back at you? Mine does so I say nothing at all now apart from 'would you like me to help you look?' although that leaves me open to 'I'VE ALREADY LOOKED THERE!' and 'WHY WOULD IT BE IN THERE FFS?!'