Bloody selfish teenagers!!!

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Dd1 14 ,has proceded to use all of dh's designer hair and bodywash,one of only 2 products he owns,dd however has a dressing table full of products but no she has to use all of dh's instead!!!
This is not the first time she has done this kind of thing,the selfishness of it makes me fume!!!
I have told her not to bother asking for anything(pocketmoney,sweets etc) for at least a month!

Good response, she can pay for replacements.
Next incident, charge double the cost.

How can she pay for replacements if she has no money though?

Just take the amount out to replace the items.

Remove the items so they cannot be taken

I'm with dust

neutrino I disagree, as the op shouldn't have to hide things from the teenager. As a last resort I'd consider it, but the teenager needs to learn to respect other people's things.

I use pocket money both as a reward and a useful pot when I fine my son for infringements of house rules.
So out of the confiscated money, he'd have to pay for replacements and also pay for taking without asking when it wasn't an emergency. Especially if he knew it wasn't OK and had been told so previously.

Pocket money to buy DH a new bottle, then to know she isn't to use it again- if she loves it so much she can buy herself some, or put it on her birthday list!

However I wouldn't make a huge song and dance. Certainly in our house if you leave it in the bath/shower it may well be seen as fair game- though if the kids want to use my lush stuff or what ever they will ask now.

I agree with dust as well.

Anything that is left in the bathroom is for everyone's use as far as I'm concerned. If it's there it's to be used. I confess to having some argan oil shampoo that I keep to myself but I keep it tucked away out of sight.

A month OP! blimey, that's a bit strong.

I'd just tell her to replace it and buy the same for herself if she likes it so much.

Or I'd buy her some and tell her to only use that and not touch her dad's again.

Oh yes, she could replace it herself if neccessary. But not a punishable offence IMO. Unless she definitely knew it was her dad's and NOT to be used.

I like being able to leave things lying around the house and know they'll be there when I get back. Or at least that someone asks me before taking them. We all do that here, and fortunately my DD's student house is the same. Last year other students helped themselves from food cupboards, bathrooms and the fridge without asking or replacing and relationships between the seven of them got a bit stressed.
I just think if you are all sharing a home, then it's polite.

In a student house, yes, you leave everyone else's things alone. But in your own home?

Yep, I think the same OrmIran. My DS nicks my products in the bathroom, I don't care to be honest I just buy more. Not a big deal really.

It's the same teenagers in both places in many cases. Never get used to the idea that you should respect other people's stuff, so bounce off to uni and then wonder why people get annoyed when you use their shampoo.
The answer is usually 'yes' in our house, especially as I'm a primary teacher and forever taking things to school to use. Last week it was every large spoon in the house for two days.

I'm obviously overly harsh and restrictive then. Too late to change now!

I have Clinique stuff in the bathroom if my 10 yearold DD can manage not to pinch it a 14 y certainly can.
Sorry no excuses, I'm sure the OPs daughter would go mad if someone used her stuff.
I'm sick of let's me nice to poor teens posts, let's let them live in a mess and show no responsibility for their possessions or those of others.
I have a 13y old DD and the attitudes of some of her class mates stinks.

When my DS did something similar my DH just "borrowed" some stuff from DS's room (money, phone charger etc).
When DS could not find his stuff DH responded like a teenager ("How was I to know you'd need that tenner tonight? I was going to replace it at the end of the week"). DS learnt pretty quickly.

Same as over strict parents drive me mad

This is one of those OP's which just leaves me staring at the scream like this for ages.

It's just hair and body wash. Calm down.

Grovel- love that response. Not really a punishment but something to make them think.

If she knew it was her dads she should not have touched it, it is selfish.

But why use all of someone's designer stuff when you had your own collection?
Isn't that very thoughtless and egocentric of a 14 year old?
Especially if she did it before and was asked not to.

Thats teenagers they are so self obsessed but I don't think they see it that way I think you are over reacting. It is a bit of shower gel

Teenagers hah! My FIL managed to use my bloody whole bar of clinique soap as body SOAP IN ONE WEEK. He's never allowed back.

Please don't tell me you have teenagers Lynette, your photo looks like a fit woman in her early twenties.