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AIBU for feeling paranoid/confused/bemused by mates' behaviour at weekend?

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CookieMonstersCousin · 22/01/2012 22:11

I have two workmates who live in the same town as me and whom I've seen socially a couple of times and who I would consider the ones I'm closest too at work (have been there only a year).
On Friday friend x asked if I'd be interested in going for a walk over the weekend along with friend y, I said yes. Yesterday I had a text from friend x asking both me and friend y about meeting up today at 1pm. I replied back as soon as to both friends. Didn't hear anything back yesterday but didn't think anything of it.

This morning, still no replies about meeting up, so sent another text to confirm todays plans. I haven't had a response yet from either friend. I went out on my own walk and texted them in case one of them hadn't received any of my previous texts but have left it at that- didn't want to push it.

Had either of them had texted to say that plans had changed, or they hadn't received my texts so presumed I was no longer interested and made other plans, I'd be okay but to hear nothing from either of them I find strange. They are very close friends with each other and I can't help but feel that I've been excluded in some way. However don't want to appear needy or feel paranoid. I'm going through a tough time at the moment with separation, moving house and moving job imminently so could have done with being with friends. And I do not dump my personal stuff on people so I don't think I'm overly needy.

AIBU???

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BluddyMoFo · 22/01/2012 22:12

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SiamoNellaMerda · 22/01/2012 22:14

Are you able to communicate in any other way apart from text message?

thepeoplesprincess · 22/01/2012 22:14

YANBU. It doesn't make you paranoid or needy to expect a text back when plans have been made. That's just normal.

WorraLiberty · 22/01/2012 22:15

Texting is a good form of communication

But telephoning is still the best

Call me old fashioned if you will....

CookieMonstersCousin · 22/01/2012 22:37

I did consider phoning but as the initial invite was by text, thats how I responded, and it had been discussed only the previous day at work so we knew it was all coming. By the time it was late morning and no response to my second text, I felt embarrased that perhaps neither of them had wanted to go for the walk with me, so didn't want to call an face further rejection. I know that that has to do with my own 'issues'.

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Kladdkaka · 22/01/2012 22:40

Am I the only person on the planet who completely ignores text messages on the basis that if it's important they'll ring? nothing to do with being text-illiterate honest

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ZZZenAgain · 22/01/2012 22:45

you'll see them at work tomorrow. Just be friendly and relaxed and see what happens. Don't presume anything awful. Maybe the friend who invited you found out that the other one had some major drama going on and they met up to discuss that. These things happen. It is not great but don't make too big a deal of it

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