To ask you all

[hanaka88]

That if you see a child in tesco on the floor screaming and head banging with his mum trying to get him into some sort of safe restraint while being bitten and nipped to please walk round, don't try and squeeze your trollie and small child through the smallest gap imaginable past them, please ignore it, don't make comments about naughtiness and tantrums, tut or shake your head.

Please just try to understand that it's hard enough watching your child have a total sensory overload and meltdown, harming himself without other people making it more stressful.

I know it's inconvenient and I'm very sorry to impose on your shopping trip, but sometimes I need to buy milk.

I saw a little boy having a meltdown in Tescos this morning. The mum looked obviously and understandably stressed.
I was with DS 7m and I smiled at her saying "we've got this to come"

I can't understand the tutters / mutterers of this society.

God some people are so insensitive.

Have been here a few times with DS2 who has ASD. CAn I ask, was it in the refridgerated aisles? DS2 got worse in those aisles, it was the bright lighting that did it for him (and occasionally the fact I went down the aisle the wrong way).

No not the refrigerated aisles. I haven't noticed a particular aisle but I'll watch for it now thanks

I wonder if the lighting has something to do with it - heard ages ago that supermarkets use certain lighting that makes shoppers more tired/susceptible to marketing as it encourages a certain amount of blinks per minute?

Interesting point maddening..I think it's lighting, noise, crowds, unpredictability all in one that makes it such a difficult place for some children. I don't particularly like it myself.

Ds has autism & between the ages of 6 months and 4 years I couldnt go in any shops without some kind of screaming fit. He's a lot better now, just gets really really impatient and pulls on my to leave, but my god it used to be awful. It was especially bad in supermarkets and I think there is something to do with the lighting. Maybe it's sensory overload for the poor little kids. I just used to go into a bubble when he was like that and not pay any attention to anyone else. Now when I see it I sometimes ask the mum if they need a hand or otherwise just walk by. I hate "starers" in any circumstance.

I was out with my daughter and DP when she had her 1st and only ever meltdown in a shop, in Tescos, he took her off to calm her down while I carried on shopping and someone not realising we were together said to me fucking children shouldnt be allowed in here! What an arse.

This sounds all too familiar....sorry OP you had such a bad shopping trip.