To just not care?

[GirlWithPointyShoes]

I'm horribly unwell and just want to rant.

So, It's MiLs (this is not a MiL thread, I adore her) Birthday today and DP has been arranging a lovely surprise party with his Grandparents and FiL since last week which was all set to be tomorrow. Lovely meal at his Grandparents house then a small party, Perfect.

DS (4) came down with an awful viral chest infections on Sunday and has been very unwell all week and I started getting unwell on Tuesday and we have been ruddy miserable since. I usually just get on with illness but this has hit me hard and I am having a hard time standing up for any length of time. DS has been a pip, He's trying to plow on but he is just too ill and sore so is very frustrated and understandably in need of lots of attention.

I suggested that DP stop off at his mums tonight for an hour or two with the gifts and cards to keep up the pretense of the surprise, Pop home to give me a break then go down to the surprise party tomorrow alone with my and DSs apologies.

I got a phone call from DP to say that his grandparents had just turned up at MiLs house with a bunch of party stuff, food and relatives. They had arranged with the rest of the family to change the surprise party to tonight without telling DP (who was helping arrange it) and FiL (her husband who was still at work and didn't get to be part of the "surprise" bit). Normally I wouldn't give a flying fart and would probably be down there in a shot to celebrate with MiL but I'm just don't like they way this was done. Why change everything at the last minute? and why tell all family members except DP and FiL?

AIBU?! I'm so bloody tired and fed up being sick I was looking forward to a hot bath and an early night. I was rather pissy on the phone and may have said that his family were weirdos so now me and DP have fallen out.

Ranty rant rant. I probably am U but please be nice. We don't have enough GPiL threads anyway. :o

You sound tired. Your DH family ABVU.
Just tell your DH that you are sorry that you have upset him but that you are annoyed with his family for messing him around.
Take care.

I don't blame you at all OP. I am suffering with a piddling cold and it is getting me down enough (such a wimp!) so I should think your chest infection thing is making you especially fed up. Your DPs family are being VU. I hope you get well soon.

By tired you mean slightly hysterical? :o

Thanks for being kind, I just don't get them! FiL was planning on making a lovely Birthday meal when he got home from work. Apparently he still doesn't have a clue.

I didn't mean that OP!!! I meant tired as in 'had enough of them all' !
Your DH's family are being unreasonable. YANBU to be annoyed with them on your DH's behalf.
:)

Oh you are so not being unreasonable. I'm on your behalf. What a bunch of absolute loons!

Loving the 'may have said his family were weirdoes'!!

Are the grandparents your MILs parents? Do they not like your FIL? as this sounds like very shitty behaviour.

YANBU. Why change it all and not include the two people she is closest to?
Very strange (and weirdo) behaviour IMO.

Yes they are her parents and I can see no reason why they wouldn't like FiL, He is lovely and he and MiL are very happy together.

Apparently FiL pulled DP into the kitchen when he arrived home and mouthed "whats going on?". He was abit miffed (rightly so) as we had all been plotting ways of getting MiL to the party without her suspecting. They were both really looking forward to seeing her face when they surprised her.

It was her 50th and FiL didn't get to be part of that lovely moment. DP was just as surprised as MiL so wasn't really part of it either. I'm :( for them both...