To tell them to stick it up their ********?

[ashamednamechanger]

Have been on preschool committee now for about a year. In that time I have done, what I think is my best, to help out as much as possible especially regaqrding fundraising. For exmple...

I organised a jumble sale (majority of stuff was mine). We made about £100, but committee complained that it was a paltry amount, even though it took me long time to organise.
I applied for us to enter a well known children's TV character comp and asked the manager to help the children draw a picture for the entry requirements. It ended up with ME having to do the picture AND paying myself for special delivery to make sure it got there on time....we didn't win!
Christmas Fayre was cancelled and I felt, and still do, that it was MY fault for not organising it myself. When I put down dates for the Fayre to take place strangley all other committee members were @busyI refused to do it all on my own, so I'm the bad guy.
Since last committee meeting 2 weeks ago I have paid for with my own money 500 business cards which I have posted through letterboxes in local area. I didn't mind this as I felt it was my way of showing support for the preschool.
I have also spent 2 whole weeks researching websites and publishing adverts on online websites when I could have been spending time with my DCs.
However, manager gave me her personal phone number, not business number, and is now complaining that all these people keep phoning her wanting to put their children in her preschool (sorry but I thought that was the whole point).

Have tried to set up new fundraising activities, but just keep getting blocked all the time even though I have put so many hours of my own time into it.
Feel utterly useless now and just want to tell them to stick it....AIBU?

Apart from the feeling unappreciated (just have to toughen up), it's so frustrating trying to get anything started!
I sent out a long list of things I had been researching to raise money to all committee members. Those who actually bothered to reply to my email just sort of shrugged their shoulders and said whatever. If I just go it alone, like I did with the business cards....I am in the wrong: yet if I do nothing and wait for committee approval, we'll never get anything done!
I proposed that we do the Abel and Cole fruit and veg bag scheme....no replies on this whatsoever. So do I just arrange it myself or let another idea pass by?

I wouldn't give it another thought, or arrange anything else. Just stop and give your effort, time and commitment elsewhere where it is appreciated. They will only carry on taking the piss and treating you like dirt if you let them!

I don't think you should have to toughen up. If you accept unappreciation, that's exactly what you'll get. When I flounced resigned I mentioned this.

Strangely, the wording on letters has changed to be more polite, appreciative and grateful, less demanding. So I feel that maybe I shouldn't have resigned (won't go back now though) but should have stepped up and said something sooner.

I was chair of the infants PFTA for a year many years ago and I feel for you. I eventually learnt not to volunteer and when Cameron got in with his Big Society bolleaux I instinctively thought 'not for me'. I do plan to help out at the local hospice shop when I part retire though.