to think my mum is odd

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i have recently introduced my mum to facebook because all her sisters have been using it for ages and thought she might enjoy it.

However today she tells me she is pissed off because my brothers friend has posted pics and they have come up on her page and my brothers ex, the mother of his 2 year old child, was in them. This friend goes out with ex'x friend.

My brother and his ex live (seperately) around 200 miles from my mum and dad. I am still friends with my brothers ex on facebook and tbh i am glad because she is a link to my niece who i rarely see. My brother does see his daughter regularly just i dont because we live in opposite ends of the country. They still fight even though they have seperated but this comes as no surprise given they split up because they 'were always fighting'. My brother has a new partner, she doesn't.

Sorry just trying to give a background here because i dont really see why my mum 'doesnt want to see pictures of HER'

I find that quite weird. She is the mother of my niece, my mums grandchild who my mum loves to bits. I find this 'hating' the ex mentality incomprehensible.

AIBU

It depends entirely on the reasons for their break-up IMO. If the ex has hurt her son badly, then yeah YABU.

I think it's a mother's instinct to defend their young, regardless of how old the 'baby' really is.

it wasn't a 'bad' break up. I think it boiled down to her having pmt and being difficult to live with and the final straw was that she was keen to marry and he said he wasnt marrying her. He has been married before she hasn't.

My mum knows my brother well and knows he is far from perfect.

I understand the 'defending your child' bit but she happily invites my ex hubby into her home when he drops my ds off at her house. Even invites his child in and feeds her lollies etc. I think this is far more reasonable. We are all adults after all.

Maybe she never liked her. Some people will always make your teeth itch.

She is BU of course, but FB brings these things into the foreground.

Can't help being a bit disappointed with my mum. I just feel it's a bit lame given that this girl is the mother of her grandchild and she didn't do anything horrendous to my brother.

I love my brother. Doesn't make me hate his ex.