To want to try it on my own first?? MIL issues

[Flowerydems]

I'm having a bit of a crisis of confidence.

I have the dentist next week and it's only a 20 min appt so I'm taking the baby with me. MIL has offered to look after him but I've declined because I'm getting to the point with his colic that I'm scared to take him out the house in case he kicks off (not good for him or me at the moment)

However there is another reason I don't want her to take him, she's constantly telling me I'm spoiling him when I'm giving him cuddles and then goes and does exactly the same thing. I'm now getting to the point where everytime I give him a cuddle I'm worried in case he turns out spoiled but she's still doing it. She nearly mowed DH down trying to get to him when he snuffled the other day. I really don't want her to help cause she never gives the baby back when I ask and won't listen when I tell her I know how to settle him.

AIBU to just want to try things on my own for a bit. He's just turned 7 weeks so I want him to get to know his mummy without her getting involved and it seems like she's desperate for me to crack and ask for help but it's getting to the point where I'm pushing myself to be able to cope with all the screaming from the colic just to prove to her I can do this!!

I know I must seem a bit unreasonable but I just can't handle only mine and DH's opinion and need some input.

xx

Agree with pants pants, my MIL was just the same. You need to nip it in the bud now! Get a sling, i used mine, read about attachment parenting( great excuse) then work out some catch phrases to say no nicely.
I understand the excitment but its your baby and she needs to get the message she had her turn now its yours.

I do feel sorry for these possessions -luckily it eases off when they can walk and talk. You are talking about a very short dental appointment when she could have gone along with you and the baby.

It is insecurity. You just have to have the right body language and people do as they are told. e.g. you hold out your arms and say 'I will have him back now, please', with body language that shows you are fully confident you will get your way. I expect there were issues before OP had the baby.

Flowery give cuddles away what is nicer. I always put ds to sleep in Moses basket or cot. Felt jealous of friends whose dc fell asleep in their arms. I think a mix is good ds been awake with earache dh tried to settle him for few hrs brought him to our bed lovely. Warm feeling. Dh on a bed in ds room was already there. Trying to settle him an ds asleep next to me only done it 3 times he is 3 . Early days do what feels right