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AIBU?

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A thank you would have been nice

13 replies

issac1 · 19/01/2012 15:00

Just before Christmas dh spent quite alot of time fixing my parents computer and saved them alot of money (my mums computer actually). My dad asked me how much he wanted for fixing it and knowing dh he wouldn't have wanted any money so I said I don't think he'll want paying, to which my dad said "oh no we will sort something out", so I left it at that.

When they came round just before Christmas my dad thanked dh and again said "he'd sort something out", however there have been no thanks from my mum, which is very unlike her. She probably thinks she has thanked him but forgotten iykwim.

Last year I noticed mum and dads fridge had alcohol in which I thought strange as they don't drink. It was bought for my sisters husband for putting some music onto my dads mp3 player. I have no problem with this however I feel a bit awful for dh as he spent such a long time sorting the computer out. Dh hasn't said anything btw.

It it unreasonable to be a little bit annoyed by this. I'm not really sure whether to bring it up or leave it alone as its about 5 weeks since he fixed it and I wouldn't really know what to say.

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Kayano · 19/01/2012 15:06

Does he need an individual thank you from everyone Hmm

Surely the thank you off your dad should be enough? My DH fixes my
Dads pc all the time because he looks at inappropriate stuff and gets loads of viruses but he is the main user so he thanks him. My mum couldn't give
Two hoots about the pc and therefore leaves it 'to te boys'

Re the beer. It depends, your DH said that it was fine etc...
Your sisters DH might have said 'just get me some beer'

Therefore I would not be upset by this.

Free tech support for patents is a given in our house and they in turn help us when they can. I wouldn't
Be saying stuff like 'we saved them loads of money' Hmm if you can, you do

IMO

BigBoobiedBertha · 19/01/2012 15:06

Was your mother there when your father said thank you? Maybe she didn't feel the need.

To be fair you didn't say your DH didn't want anything so maybe your father took this at face value and gave him nothing.

Is your DH annoyed too? Has he seen your parents since Christmas?

I think actually YAB a bit U but I do understand that families can do things without thinking and take each other for granted so I do get why you are annoyed. I just think you would be unreasonable to do anything or to remain annoyed for long. In fact, it is 5 weeks so let it go.

BigBoobiedBertha · 19/01/2012 15:08

Sorry you 'did' say DH didn't want anything......

Marymaryalittlecontrary · 19/01/2012 16:26

Your dad has thanked your husband. Therefore he has done it on behalf of both parents. He asked how much it would cost to fix and you said you didn't want anything. Therefore you shouldn't expect anything - the time for money has been and gone.

Also, they're your parents. Surely that is enough reason to do something to help them, without wanting anything in return?

usualsuspect · 19/01/2012 16:29

I think you should let it go

Families help each other out all the time surely

Rindercella · 19/01/2012 16:29

You Dad said thank you to your DH. Twice. You said that your DH wouldn't want anything. I guess your parents took you at your word. I think YABU to even be giving this a second thought now. Is your DH fussed about this or is it just on your mind?

shootfromthehip · 19/01/2012 16:31

Sorry but YABU- forget it!

DoesNotGiveAFig · 19/01/2012 16:32

YABU.

CuntWorm · 19/01/2012 16:35

What do you want from your mum a parade?

Your dad thanked him surely that is enough

TimothyClaypoleLover · 19/01/2012 16:36

YABU. Your mum probably felt she didn't need to thank him as your dad had already done it. And re the beer in the fridge, as someone else said, perhaps your sisters DH did say just get me some beer.

You sound really petty.

HipHopOpotomus · 19/01/2012 16:39

Your Mum could have thanked him too - even just in passing! But YABU to dwell on this any further.

QuickLookBusy · 19/01/2012 16:42

YABU Your Dad did thank him, that should be enough.

Maybe as he did it just before xmas they forgot about making more of a fuss
though I don't understand why they would need to.

Bluebell99 · 19/01/2012 16:44

YABU. What would you say now? "I know I said five weeks ago that dh didn't need anything for fixing the computer apart from a thank you, which he got. I now feel you should have got him something?" Honestly, families help each other out. Just be happy with that warm feeling you get for doing someone a good turn.

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