to crack and say something to bridezilla?!

[wozntme]

My friend is getting married in June, which I knew would be as big and flash a production as possible because that is how they are. This isn't the issue, but is relevant! Her sister is the complete opposite to her, they are absolutley nothing alike. Said sister is getting married next month, and has done everything on a limited budget, and with the help of friends and relatives who have made it all possible for them.
The sister has been engaged several years, and they were waiting to be able to afford the wedding, when a close friend of theirs was diagnosed with terminal cancer. They have planned the wedding in just a couple of months in order for the friend to still be here and see it :o( which I thought was a kind gesture, but I'm soft like that.
Now bridezilla, is driving me mad. She is complaining that she can't have anything remotely similar at her wedding. Won't have the same wedding cars, despite them being offered free of charge to both sisters. Is saying she is going to cancel her booking with her caterers as the evening menu is 'too similar'... it's a buffet. How many kinds of buffet can you have?! Not even half the guests will be the same at each wedding either. These are just a couple of examples. Then she was having a strop over suits, so I asked what her OH was having, and she didn't know yet!!!! Yet she knows what her sister's OH is having so I can't see the problem?
I just feel like telling her to stop being such a muppet, and that there are far more important things to worry about. It's weird as normally I am closer to bridezilla, but the more of a cow she is being over this the harder I am finding it not to tell her I think she is being a bit dramatic shall we say.
I think she is looking at it too closely. One is church, one isn't. Locations are different. Most guests are different.
WWYD? Try and keep your trap shut or just get it off your chest? She has actually been laying all this on her sister as well and making her feel awful. I'm afraid she will affect her sister's big day when there really isn't a need, and resentment between them going forward.1

Oh sorry the emoticon was an accident. New poster, long time reader!

give er a slap

I would say something in this instance. She probably has had no one say no or YABU in a long time.

Selfish moo

Are you the sister...

Kayano, I think you have hit the nail directly on the head tbh. Having heard the way she spoke to her mother the other day, I am still gobsmacked now!

I think in this canse I might diplomatically point out that there are more impoertant things, like somebody who is terminally ill.

Oops! Forgot my question mark.

uh, no round..... the sister is just backing down over everything, which kind of makes kayano's point more valid.

I am alright right smug

(kidding) x

God I despise Bridezillas, do they really think anyone gives an actual fuck about their look-at-me day?

Tbh honest if she wants to go to all the bother of cancelling her caterers and what not, then more fool her. What a dumbass!

My response would be to glaze over when she starts and then change the subject asap. Don't give the performance an audience.

Yes, if you are a good friend then say something.

"Look, I know this is the most important day of your life, but your sister is going to lose her very good friend soon, so your comments just seem petty and mean"

Well then, ime bridezillas can rarely be reasoned with.

Head down, get through the day, support the low key sister, then maybe take the pee out of bridezilla later...

I don't know how Bridezillas can do it. How are they not utterly ashamed at their own sense of self importance, and self promotion?
Revolting things.

One of my friend's weddings put the kybosh on our friendship, maybe a decade or so ago.
We didn't fall out over it or anything - but watching her become Bridezilla made me aware that she was really just an unpleasant, selfish, demanding individual, petty, shallow, greedy individual....and I just went right off her.

Hmmm my gut feeling is going with .......... Say as little as possible to bridezilla! Let the zillaness wash over you - your perviously lovely friend will be retuned at about midnight on the wedding night when she realises she is now just a wife weddings turn otherwise normal people into nutters it's a fact!

I think voicing your opinions of your friend behaviour will just drive a wedge between you as friends. It would take one hell of a person to (in full bridezilla bloom) turn around and say "oh gosh woz - you are right. What a cow I have been. I will from this moment on be the model example of a demure and thoughtful bride "

Sounds like good old sibling rivalry and with the date change your friend it seems feels as though her thunder is being stolen. All irrational but were dealing with zilla-itis she will think she is being perfectly reasonable.

Give the other sister knowing looks and the odd wink here and there to let her know you can see her sister is lost to zillaness but if you value her friendship I would do mo more

Love a good wedding

mmm beginning to feel that way pictish... I don't understand her issues which is why I posted as i thought maybe I was being thick! I have previously mentioned that I thought her sister had bigger things on her mind then the material things, but it didn't have any impact!

I think you should tell her to think about her sister's friend with a terminal illness, then think about her worries over the food etc. and ask her which worry she'd prefer. She sounds a nasty piece of work.

My gut feeling is that the bridezilla is jealous, maybe cos the other wedding is first. It's probabley all wrapped up with the relationship between the two sisters too. I think if you say anything too strong then it will just make her worse. I bet she doesn't realise how badly she is behaving, she'll think you're being unreasonable.

I would try and ignore, change the subject, but then I hate confrontation!

I would tell her she's being a bridezilla

You don't know the full sibling relationship history so I would keep a low profile.