to not let dd have a certain 'theme' for her party?

[LadyMontdore]

Don't flame me, I really don't know what I feel, except sad.

DD has decided on a certain theme for her party (I'll call it princesses but it isn't). She is going to be 4. Went into local shop and shop owner was showing me her catalogue of stuff that she can order. On said princess page she said 'I had all the stuff in for that little girl that [died in really tragic circumstances]'. I don't personally know the girl's family but have friends that do, one of whom might be at dds party. The thought of the poor little girl and her family makes me really not want to have the same sort of party - it would have been her last.

I know it is a very trival query, just hard not to feel sad at the thought of another mum doing what I'm doing and then such an awful thing happening.

YANBU for feeling sad (the shop owner should never have mentioned that)

But YABU to to no let your DD have that particular theme because of it.

I agree with Worra.
It's understandable that you would feel that way, but I don't think your DD should "suffer" for it, especially as she's at an age where she wouldn't really understandf the reasoning behind it.

Not the brightest shop owner around.

Strange sales technique from shop owner.

I wouldn't cancel the theme if it's one your DD loves, but I would sensitively pre warn the people who will be attending who may be grieving for the other little girl.

You need to let your dd have the theme she wants.

Maybe the child who was friends with the girl who did would like to be able to go to a party with the same theme.

YANBU to feel a bit wierd about it, but it's not fair for you to pass your adult emotions onto a child who will feel differently. Especially when it's her party for her birthday, and nothing to do with anyone else's tragic circumstances.

I would buy the stuff from somewhere else though.