Am I right to be worried about this??

[katypillar]

My DD is 13 months and (luckily) a complete joy...

My best friend was recently left by her husband, has had to sell the house, move in with her parents, its been awful for her.

She now does everything with us pretty much, holidays, meals, days out etc, which is very easy and very lovely with my DD. She is the kind of baby who is happy to sit with us in a restaurant for hours and not cry, who will happily play with toys while we drink tea and chat etc etc, so in terms of my friendship and the availibility of it to her, it hasn't really changed much since I had a baby.

I've recently found out i'm pregnant, and I'm just worried that it is going to crush her, or at least ruin our friendship. She would have loved to have a baby (and obviously, still hopes to) and so we make a conscious effort to not rub it in (that sounds awful but can't think of a better way to put it).

I've put off telling her that i'm pregnant because I think the ease of life at the moment is just going to completely dissapear, I'm not going to have as much time for her.

And the longer I leave it the more I think she'll hate me when I finally do tell her.

Its all making me wish I'd waited to be honest. Is this just hormones or do you think I've actually got something to worry about :S

I was really worried about telling a friend about my pregnancy recently. She has kids, but lost one of her babies. I was worried shed find it too hard. I eventually said to her that I had been worrying about how to tell her, as I knew it might be hard for her, but I wanted her to know from me before it got out. She was fine about it, and said she appreciated my concern for her feelings.

Weird. You are not responsible for her reproductive timetable are you? She'll hate you? Ummm - and you're sure she's such a good friend if that's going to be her reaction?

She might be very pleased for you.
Spending a bit less time together might enable her to meet the man of her dreams, which could lead to her having kids.
I think you are worrying over nothing.
You do sound like a nice friend though

I think you are over thinking this and worrying for no reason, tbh.

You are worried because you care about your friends feelings, and that is lovely. She is very lucky to have you.

But you do need to tell her ASAP, and you might need to tell her how worried you were about telling her iyswim. If she is as good a friend to you as you are to her, then the only possible response you will get is one of happiness. She might feel sad for herself, but she is still capable of feeling happy for you at the same time.

You really do need to tell her soon though, I think she is more likely to be upset that you haven't told her, especially if she is sharing absolutely everything with you.