to be pissed at 'D'Bro for not including me?

[sethkillsyou]

My elder brother is having a book published - an academic one - the ones with the acknowledgement page as well as a dedication.

the acknowledgement pages is 2 pages long and like most mentions some collegues current and old and a few institutions that helped with research etc.
But it starts with thanking his partner and then goes on to thanking family then friends (then work people) and then editor and things.
In the family bit he mentions (in order) DSis, Dad and step-mum, Mum, 2 sets of grandparents then thanks our step-mums family.

I'm not mentioned anywhere - nothing. No mention of a second sister or my name.

I feel upset about it and actually am a bit angry.

AIBU to be a teeny bit pissed at him? (more than prepared to be told I am - and I do wonder if I am being - it is his first book and all and I should just be ful of pride for him not thinking about myself)

I'm somewhat in about a such a lengthy acknowledgement given to the extended family in that an academic publication. It comes across as rather precious, tbh. But at that length, I'd be very surprised if someone wasn't forgotten. It's rather a shame that it is you, however.

But you have a choice. Raise the subject with him or silently seethe. I'd be inclined to (jokily) ask him when his memory started to fail...

My DH has published a couple of books and dozens of journal articles, he has never mentioned me.

I had never thought about it till now!

If he'd not mentioned any of the other family then it wouldn't matter, but because you're the only one omitted, that's got to hurt.. Unless they all helped with research/proof read etc etc, then it's a bit off.. unless you've fallen out?

YANBU anyway!

People who read acknowledgements are only checking to see whether or not they have been mentioned (like you did). The world at large or even the readership at small (probably) won't be remotely interested and so will not realise you have been ommitted. Nevertheless I can see why you feel hurt, but nothing much to be done about it now so try to rise above it.

I think you are making a fuss about nothing. My son wrote a 150 page dissertation for his MBA and listed acknowledgements finishing with his wife for tolerating his absence from family life while he studied. He also mentioned his two children for not interrupting his study / work and allowing him to carry on but still welcoming him home from work.

I did his proof reading but my name was not there. Did I mind? No because he had achieved what I had wanted him to achieve.

I can see why you would mind, if he has gone so far as crediting your stepmum's family.

And I do often read the credits in books, as I find them interesting and gives a bit of background to the individual.

I would ask him.

Is this the book published or is it a first draft or something?

Can you text or email him so that he knows quickly what he has done. Perhaps have your name added before it goes to print.

Tricky to make him see that you are hurt without being accused of spoiling his moment of glory but I would want to make the ratarse squirm

If he's anything like my academic husband this is just the numpty side of their genius. Mine forgot to include our daughter in his will. He got distracted by making provision for care of the dogs

Yes, I think Kladdkaka has a point.

'the numpty side of genius' says it all.

Let him know you are hurt but don't dwell on it. He most likely forgot you by mistake.

Did you get to the bottom of this sethkillsyou?