AIBU or just a bit precious re baby wt?

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I managed to gain 4 stone while pregnant with my DS ( cringe).
After he was born I managed to loose quite a lot although did haemorrage

Within a month I had terrible PND / post natal pyschosis and started medication of which has caused weight gain and eating chocolate helps My GP ins't keen on reducing the dose as I'm stable and do feel so much better.

My ishoo being, I've popped into work twice and 4 colleagues have been less than kind.
Why haven't you done any excercise?
Are you pregnant again ? < while poking my jelly belly>
Is that a maternity top? ( yes it was! and DS was 6 mths old)
etc etc.

I'm not keen on telling them my MH problems although my boss knows

I'll be returing in April when DS will me 10mths and will be stressed enough leaving him in nursery etc.

I do walk loads during the day and try to stick to a healthy eating plan hate the word diet But the weight wont move !

Am I just being precious re these people seeming to judge me on my appearance?

They are rude twats. Tell them so. Cunts.

No, they are being nasty, unkind arses.

Quiet smile and a "that's unkind" would be the dignified response.

Sounds like you are dealing with things well and in your own time. Hope things continue to improve.

I have no advice but have been there Ds is 9 and now only shifting the weight and had many people ask if I was pregnant again . I had so much more to worry about than the weight loss!

Just take care of yourself xxx

So true, have so much more to worry about :o

The fact that I'm not chasing monsters around my living room or having a conversation with the photo developing thing in Boots - wearing no shoes any more has to be more important than the size of my jeans.........

Your ishoo isn't really the weight, it's working with people who are breathtakingly rude!

In my office if someone comes in who has gained weight people tend to talk about haircuts and handbags, or anything else which can be complimented. There's always something nice to say if you're a half decent person who's willing to look for it.

Whatever you do don't tell them about you mh problems, it's none of their business and they sound like rather nasty people who would use it against you.

Next time they mention your weight look them straight in the eye and firmly say 'what a horrible thing to say, did you mean to be so rude?'.

You are absolutely not being precious btw.

You are not. They are plain and simple rude. I was still in my maternity trousers at 6 months (oh the shame) . I did eventually lose the baby weight and am now slimmer than pre pregnancies. Took about 2 years. I'm a bit of a lazyass.

They are twats.

Can't believe people would be so rude. Unbelievable.
As bobble says Do not tell them your MH probs.

Not precious at all. They are idiots.

If anyone pokes you in belly again (which makes me shake my head in disbelief )- grab the offending finger and bend it back till you hear a click.

It is this kind of thing that makes me wonder about people - really. You've put on weight not changed who you are. i'd expect some comments if you joined the BNP or started watching Corrie but being fat is noone else's fucking concern.

Here's a xx

Fuck! Really? Rude bastards!

Next time anyone asks why you haven't been exercising say, "I've more important things to think about, I just had a baby! What's your excuse?" and if they have been exercising, tell them that you can't tell!

You are not being at all precious. They sound awful.

I'm also going back to work in April and if any of my colleagues are that rude I will be heartbroken and hide in the toilets and cry!!

This may be unwanted advice, but if the weight is bothering you (and only if it is bothering you) then it might be worth checking out your local gym. I've just discovered that mine offers a creche during weekday mornings so I've joined up. To be honest, this is partly to help get back in shape, but also to help get me used to leaving LO, because, like you, I am terrified about leaving him when I go back to work.

I'm so glad you feel better. That's the important thing. I hope the responses above have helped to reinforce that you are so far from being U. People like this are not worthy of a moment's consideration. They are making fools of themselves not the other way round. I hope you have kinder allies in your workplace and that you can laugh with them at how comically rude and vulgar these individuals have been. Either way I hope you can hold your head high as someone who has had a bad time and who is coming out the other side.

Rude!

Regardless of the MH issues, which will make everything a million times more difficult, or the medication (ditto) that is cruel and unkind.

You need to concentrate on getting well, not on a baywatch body. The weight can come off when you're ready.

And agree with those who say, if it is mentioned again, "Do you realise you are being rude and unkind?" or words to that effect

next time they comment have some comment ready

them 'bla bla gym bla bla fat'

you 'do you mean to be so rude and nasty'

They sound awful! IGNORE, cuddle your LO and forget them.

Who the fuck do they think they are?

I've worked with some arse-holes in my time but I have never, ever heard somebody say something so rude to someone's face.

As for the finger prodding, I agree with DoMeDon, I'd bend it back and roll it up like a bloody pinwheel.

My response? 'Yes, but I can lose weight, you will always be rude/a bitch/a twat (delete as appropriate!)'

My DD's a year & I'm only just starting to tackle the 2 stone I have to lose, I know I should have started sooner, but I was busy. Busy learning to be a first time Mum (& apparently this requires ample cake!) Ignore them, you just had your priorities in order. It's a shame there's are so skewed.

also at their comments I agree with the above say 'that is unkind'
Remember it took 9 months to put it on and it should take that much time at least to lose it, You sound like you are doing everything right and you will wake up some morning and find you are smaller size, remember slow and steady weight loss means it stays off so no faddy quick fixes.

Yes, Floopy I didn't realise how much cake was needed being a first time mum!

All of the above comments have made me feel better - thank you ladies .

Thankfully, I'm going back part time!

They are sods. That is all.

Happy - after ds1 was born, I went back to my normal weight quite quickly - after ds2 I had pnd and psychosis, and was on anti-psychotics for a while (seroquel) I put loads of weight on - despite always being the same weight since I was 15 - it's a very common side effect of anti-psychotics. no matter how you control your eating - it does affect your metabolism. I tried not to stress about it - although it make make me feel uncomfortable. I was mystified at the time...

When the time was right, I eventually came off them - I've been well ever since, and my weight returned to normal very quickly after stopping them.

When the time is right for you and your mental health, and it's time to come off them, you will probably lose the weight - don't be hard on yourself - concentrate on your mental health - that is the most important thing - and give me the house number of your colleagues and I will go and sort them out!

That is unbelievable that you work with so many rude people!

I don't mean I don't believe it, I just mean... jeez.

It is amazing how many people feel entitled to comment on your weight, though. I had a rough first year in my current job (just long hours) and put on about a stone, and after I lost most of it there was a phase where people would look appraisingly at my waistline and say, 'Ooh you've lost weight'.

Sometimes you just feel like saying 'Do your f**king job and keep your opinions to yourself.' Sadly, one can't....

Thank you all.

I had to pop in today as needed to collect forms etc. No one was unkind but was wearing a corset thingy to hold in my tummy that stopped the blood flow to my legs on my wedding day