Friend not turning up.

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A friend texted to ask if she can stay over tonight, about a week ago. She used to live nearby and has come back for the weekend. She wanted to see other friends last night/today and us tonight/tomorrow. No problem. She was going to a show at 6 (in the village), so I expected her about 9ish.

So, I tidied the house, cleaned the spare room and made up the bed.

At 9.30 I texted her to ask when she thought the show might finish.

At 10.00 I called. No response.

At 10.30 she texted back. She had gone to the pub after the show.
I replied, saying we were waiting to eat, had she eaten? Should we order?

At 10.40 she replied that she had eaten, to go ahead and eat. We ate.

Still not here. Do I just go to bed and lock the door?

How nice.

You're a hotel.

I don't think this friend has been so bad to be honest unless she said she'd be with you at 9 rather than you presuming. She did say that her plan was to other friends yesterday and you today. For me I wouldn't have expected her until late but I would have told her that she needed to arrive by 11 so I could go to bed.

I've had friends to stay in this situation several times - it isn't them treating you like a travel lodge rather you helping out a mate!

I do however think she was a little rude to leave it quite as late as she did but she probably just lost track of time and to be fair she did arrive in 10 minds once you told her you needed to go to bed

Hope you manage to have a nice time with her today

hope you've got the washing machine, vacuum, TV and shower going, DCs are running about nice and loud already?

cheeky madam might think twice before using you asking next time?

What YellowDinosaur said. Communication could've been better, but why not help out a mate? The 9 o'clock expectation was only in your head.

I wouldn't really care what time a mate arrived, even though I do have 2 small kids. I like helping my friends out.

wow! what's happened after the chat???

Youre better than me, Id have been in bed by 10pm, well gone midnight she turned up. The cheek!

Seriously YellowDinosaur? In the OP's shoes I wouldn't have minded if I'd been told what was happening. Originally friend said she was going to a show at 6 but wanted to see the OP that evening/next day.
In light of that it made sense to expect her to show up for dinner after the show.

As it turned out the plan was actually show then whole evening drinking in the pub and showing up after closing time. Not quite the same. OP could have arranged things differently if she'd been told. In her shoes I'd be miffed.

We chatted until 2. I'm not cross really, she's lovely, but it did seem a little rude. We had a nice day today, which involved me having a lie-in. :)