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Justified or Pathetic Drama Queen

18 replies

Bathsheba · 14/01/2012 18:35

I've always been accused of slight Drama Queen tandancies, although I can't see it myself.

Over the last couple of hoursa I've started to feel really rough - nothing specific, but sore joints and really lethargic.

I basically feel exhausted.

My DH however has a tendancy to be competitively tired so I don't want to actually "play the exhaustion card" without merit.

Here is my case for being exhausted.

DH went away with work on Dec 28th and arrived hom on Jan12th.
We have 3 Dds. DD1 is 8, DD2 is 5, DD3 is 2. I had sole care of them whilst he was away and the elder 2 didn;t go back to school until Jan 9th.
DD3 has been really ill this week - high temp, snotty nose, general illness (nothing serious, just a cold). 1 night she had me up 7 times, 1 night she had me up 8 times.
DH arrived back on Thursday but spent most of thursday asleep (fine, he had flown overnight etc).
Dh has gone to the pub and the football today whilst I have taken the 3 Dds to a soft play birthday party for 2 hours - 60 mile round trip. Then come home, tidied up, made the dinner etc.

I have just phoned DH to ask him to head home fairly soon - I don;t feel well and I need to go to bed. He is just leaving the pub and then going to get the bus home.

Am I justified and going straight to bed, not helping with the DDs bathtimes and bedtime (they have been fed) and basically reading and napping.

Would "exhausted" be a legitimate word to use in this situation in my justification and in an attempt not to be accused of being a drama queen.

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zingzillachinchilla · 14/01/2012 18:37

YANBU - if that's what drama queen behaviour looks like then I'm off the scale!! Get yourself to bed as soon as you hear his key in the door! Hope you feel better soon

HowlingBitch · 14/01/2012 18:39

"Can't be arsed" would be legitimate enough IMO.

YANBU now go to bed.

Bathsheba · 14/01/2012 18:40

I want to be a bit capable as its my bf's Dd's birthday party tomorrow - all 3 of mine are going nad I want to be there and of use to my bf...

I was supposed to be going out tonight (not a drunken night, just a night out at one of my friends houses with a lot of the girls from church) but I'm going to have to cancel my attendance at that as I feel really rough.

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pictish · 14/01/2012 18:40

Yanbu.
Leave him to it. xx

Bathsheba · 14/01/2012 18:40

Oh and it was DD3's 2nd birthday yesterday and I ahd to put up with a number of hours of my MIL

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Nanny0gg · 14/01/2012 18:41

Even if you didn't feel rough you need to make let DH take over.

He came back on Thursday, he spent yesterday in bed and he pissed off went out today.

Hmmm....

catgirl1976 · 14/01/2012 18:41

YANBU. Catgirl prescribes a hot bath, a Baileys and bed

Nanny0gg · 14/01/2012 18:42

Ooops, misread the day he spent in bed.

However, the rest still stands.

HowlingBitch · 14/01/2012 18:43

You don't have to make excuses my love! Even if you had nothing to do tomorrow but scratch you butt you are quite entitled to be tired at go to bed when DH comes home.

Will he have a problem with it?

LindyHemming · 14/01/2012 18:43

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Bathsheba · 14/01/2012 18:44

That bf is my best friend and not my boyfriend...

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Sirzy · 14/01/2012 18:44

Yanbu at all. Good on him for coming straight back to help. A good nights sleep all round sounds like the perfect cure!

HowlingBitch · 14/01/2012 18:45

I have no idea what happened with that post!

You don't have to make excuses my love! Even if you had nothing to do tomorrow but scratch your butt you are quite entitled to be tired and go to bed when DH comes home.

Will he have a problem with it?

CailinDana · 14/01/2012 18:46

I find it a bit sad that you have to justify yourself so much, as though your DH will only "help" if you're half dead. He's your children's parent too, he should be doing his fair share, not heading out and leaving you to it. My DH looked after our DS for practically the entire day today, for no other reason than to give me a break. I'm not ill or anything. Despite him looking after DS for the entire day he's upstairs now putting him to bed and when he comes down he'll make the dinner. I'm on MN with a glass of wine.

zingzillachinchilla · 14/01/2012 18:47

The bf is not your boyfriend? How disappointing - was just about to prescribe spending tomorrow in bed with your boyfriend Grin

Bathsheba · 14/01/2012 18:51

I'm not sure my bf would really be up for that - she's not that type of girl...:)

I'm sure he won't really have a problem - although I don;t know how many pints have been consummed and whether it will be reasonable/fair/sensible to leave him to put the girls to bed

I guess like I say, I really don't consider myself a drama queen at all - I think I do a huge amount without any sort of drama and I'm really quite stoical about it, but I guess I'm quite sensitive about there being lots of jokes and digs about me being a drama queen...(Like when one of the DD's has a tantrum there will always be a "Well, I wonder who she gets that off" and things).

Still wiating on him coming home though

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lollystix · 14/01/2012 18:57

YANBU- 'your turn' would be my response. I'm not surprised you're knackered!!

Bathsheba · 14/01/2012 19:04

DH is back now and I am posting this update from my bed...!!

Thanks everyone

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