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To be worried about Dc3 coming, and wondering if I am a good mother.

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BirthdayBump2012 · 14/01/2012 17:22

Long time lurker first time poster, Sorry for spelling and grammar in advance, never been good at it.
I have 2 Dcs who I love to pieces and my Dh is supportive and the house is big enough, but the closer it gets to my due date the more scared I become.
I had PND for a while with Dc1 and it took months for me to feel anything for her. I still have bad days sometimes and Dh is very supportive but I feel like I should hide it from him because he works hard for us all and I don't want him worrying and when I asked a friend she said it was selfish of me. Dc2 was better for me, but recently after starting his play group the workers think he may be showing signs of ADHD, and I just wonder as his mother why I didn't notice that first and now when I think about it the signs where there I just seemed to miss them. Dc1 goes to school and Dc2 has started play school for two mornings a week just so he could make some friends as most will be going to the same school when he starts, and eventhough I missed them I'm going to miss the break where I can relax and just potter along with the housework.
This could just be hormons or nerves but I could really use another view on this please.

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ISayHolmes · 14/01/2012 17:47

Here's my perspective:

-Your friend is one person with one opinion. I disagree that it's selfish of you to show that you're having a bad day. We all have bad days and it's not fair on you to pretend they don't happen. Your DH will understand, he is supportive because he cares.

-The workers will have been exposed to many, many children as part of their jobs. They will have learnt to recognise things like ADHD from experience. They've never been around him before so perhaps these things are more obvious because it isn't their child that they have never spent a great deal of time around him. They are a "fresh" pair of eyes as it were. Please don't let this knock your confidence.

BirthdayBump2012 · 15/01/2012 19:50

Thank you

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