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to be really annoyed about this (sorry, long)!

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extremepie · 14/01/2012 11:22

I went out last night with a friend of mine and a 'friend of a friend'. For the purpose of this post I'll call her K!

I've met K before, been on a couple nights out with her and she seemed nice enough but I don't really know her that well.

Anyway, we went to this club where K's boyfriend works as a DJ.
She got very drunk. I'm not sure if it's just her personality or if her drunkeness that caused it but she was being very antagonistic towards anyone and everyone in the club, male and female. She shouted at one bloke for accidentally bumping into her as he walked past, screamed at another girl for nearly stepping on her foot, and so on.

In walks a male friend of mine and DH's (lets call him G). DH used to work with him and we have known him for years - his DD and our DS2 are practically the same age, we know his girlfriend, etc.

He was on his way to the smoking area so, even though I don't smoke, I went out with him to have a chat and a catch up outside where it was a bit quieter. He looked really happy to see me, gave me a hug and started commenting about how 'hot' I looked (not a stealth boast! - It's relevent to what happened later!)

As we re-enter the club K spots me with G and just goes mad - she ran up, smacked him in the side of the head and started pushing him in the chest, screaming at him 'what the are you doing, she's married' and stuff like that.

I put myself between them, holding my hands up to keep her off him and try to calm her down - I tried to tell her that he was a friend of mine but either she couldn't hear or was so worked up she wasn't listening because she continued to try to hit him around me.

The bouncers quickly turned up and escorted G out - she was allowed to stay in. I went with him to try and find out what was going on and apparently she had told them that he hit her, hence why he was asked to leave. I had no interest in staying after that so G said he would walk me home (about 10 minutes).

There were some police standing outside so G decided to report what it and I said that if I needed to I would give my account of what happened.

So, on the walk home G then proceeded to keep telling me how 'hot' I was, how 'cool' I was and generally overboard on the compliments. He then, several times, tried to get me to kiss him, not in an aggressive way but in a very persistant and annoying way, to the extent of 'pulling me in' so I had to push him off me (he is shorter than me and I'm only 5ft4 but not the point!).

Eventually he stopped and dropped me off (so to speak) just before my house - probably so he didn't have to encounter DH after what he had just been doing.

I'm so annoyed at K for assalting someone who is my friend, especially when she didn't bother to check who this guy is, and even more so that she was supposedly doing in on my behalf! I'm perfectly capable of dealing with guys on a night out who approach me and what she did was completely unnecessary and wrong.

I'm also really angry at G for doing what he did when he knows DH and our 2 DS's! I mentioned his girlfriend at one point and he went very quiet. I'm even more annoyed because I was sticking up for him in the club!I don't know if I should even bother giving a statement about what happened now.

Just so angry - why can't the people I know and hang around with just be normal and decent! Why should I have this aggrivation when I try to go out and enjoy myself! Arrrrrgggg!

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 14/01/2012 11:26

Arrrrgggg, indeed.

monstermissy · 14/01/2012 11:26

Sounds like no one can handle their drink and that they are all about 15.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 14/01/2012 11:28

Hmmmmmmmm..... time to find some new friends, mebbe?

RevoltingPeasant · 14/01/2012 11:29

No offence OP but how old are you? Genuinely.... I stopped being into drama like this when I was about twelve twenty-one and maybe you are just growing out of the whole weekend club-n-snogging scene.

cornastasiaski · 14/01/2012 11:30

next time stay in and watch Big Brother

ShowOfHands · 14/01/2012 11:31

Why are pirates called pirates?

Because they arrrrgggg!

Confuzzeled · 14/01/2012 11:36

I Know what this is like. I don't have drama friends either but sometimes drama just happens and even though you try, you end up getting involved.

You need to tell the truth about what happened if the police ask you.

Steer clear of that girl in future.

If it was me I'd tell my dh about man trying to kiss you. My dh would probably have a quiet word but would never be violent.

WorraLiberty · 14/01/2012 11:37

Sorry to take the thread off topic but I've been wanting to ask this for ages

Am I the only person on MN who doesn't know anyone in RL who uses the word 'hot' to describe someone?

Even my 20yr old DS and his mates don't use that word? It's like we've all be thrown back to 80's America or something Confused

ViviPru · 14/01/2012 11:38

What RP said

perceptionreality · 14/01/2012 11:39

Poor you - sounds like a nightmare evening!

cornastasiaski · 14/01/2012 11:40

Yes worra I agree - doesn't anyone say 'fit' anymore?

extremepie · 14/01/2012 11:42

I'm 26 :)

K is younger (21?), my friend we were out with is also 26 and G is in his forties.

I probably am growing out of the 'scene' but I don't have a lot of friends and going out with the ones I do have every other week is one of the only fun things I get to do for myself. I've been married to DH since I was 21 so I'm very used to being the only married one in a group of single people.

I did tell DH about it as soon as I got home because I thought he would want to know - I don't think he'll do anything about it other than quietly seethe for a while, since we don't see G very often.

Probably a good thing....

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cornastasiaski · 14/01/2012 11:44

G sounds like he's having a mid-life crisis!

Fellati0Nelson · 14/01/2012 11:44

Agree with RevoltingPeasant - it's hard to believe this is ADULTS we are taking about. Not surprised you are pissed off OP - what a dreadful evening. K sounds like a fucking nightmare - I pity whoever gets on the wrong side of her on a night out in future. Tell your mutual friend that in future you are not going anywhere where she is on the guest list. I detest those drunken, aggressive, arumentative gobshites who are spoiling for a fight more than just about anyone I can think of.

And G just sounds like a bit of a drunken twat who is incapable of separating a woman who is nice to him from a woman who wants to shag him.

I think it's time to hang up your clubbing shoes and start mixing with proper grown-ups.

Fellati0Nelson · 14/01/2012 11:46

Ah, crossed posts - I can see that K is barely a grown-up. Still, my 12 year old would behave better in public.

kdiddy · 14/01/2012 11:48

Yes G does sound like he's having a midlife crisis - or he's one of those blokes that misinterprets stuff and because you stuck up for him (quite rightfully I think), he thought that meant more than it did.

This is why I don't like going out clubbing anymore ... !

WorraLiberty · 14/01/2012 11:49

That was it cornastasiaski 'Fit as fuck' Grin

ViviPru · 14/01/2012 11:49

OK then, you're 26, fair dues.

I was still being dragged to DPs DJ gigs partying a bit at 26. At 21 I was known to end an evening sobbing in a bus shelter. But I didn't have a DH or DCs at the OPs age. That makes it different I think.

nailak · 14/01/2012 11:53

Maybe k knows g and he has form for this type of behaviour, ie coming on to married women? Maybe he has come on to her. Too?

cornastasiaski · 14/01/2012 11:53

hahaGrin

Wearyworker · 14/01/2012 15:07

K sounds like she was showing off in the club where her boyfriend works, thinking she can say/do whatever she likes, to whoever she likes because she's the DJ's girlfriend.. :(
Just try and make sure the next time you go out and if she's there just have nothing to do with her

minimisschief · 14/01/2012 15:17

I cant get over the fact that she smacked him on the side of the face yet he is the one potentially getting in trouble for it. Do not care what he did tell the police who actually assaulted who and do not brush it off because shes a woman and that somehow doesn't count

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