to take these comments with a pinch of salt? MIL related.

[Newmummytobe79]

I take pride in my appearance (most of the time!) and have had issues with my weight in the past. Since having our baby, I've done pretty well at losing the weight and my friends are so lovely in saying I'm back to my pre-pregnancy weight etc (I'm around 1/2 stone off and have been since around week 12)

I'm still around a stone over the weight I was on our wedding day - but I know I was probably too thin then.

The first comment that bothered me was when I was pregnant. She said something about me having a small bum ... and then followed up with, well, before you got pregnant. (this was indeed true! )

I mentioned seeing a person who was at our wedding, and said how I didnt think she remembered me. MIL said 'Oh she probably didnt recognise you. You looked stunning on your wedding day ...' and then proceeded to say how lovely her friend said I looked blah blah blah.

I was a bit shocked and wish I'd come back with a comment like 'but you mean I don't look stunning in my trackie bottoms, hair scrapped back and no make-up? '

I'd like to think she just said this without thinking ... but wonder if she really does think I've let myself go? (which I don't think I have)

Do I take these comments with a pinch of salt ... or is it time to get to the gym and stick a bit of slap on!

Someone else's comments are NEVER a reason to change your appearance. Are you happy with how you are at the moment? Is it a top priority to get back to your exact pre-pregnancy weight?

Change yourself if you want to do it for you, not for others.

some days I think I've done really well, some days I think my bad relationship with food is coming back :(

I think I'm on top of it though.

I guess most people would brush them off, but with my past I do remember appearance comments and sit on them - obviously!

I think your reading too much into what she said?
I think she said it without thinking. I would be a bit hurt too but try not to over analyse it.

Could it be she hit a nerve cause your not happy with your own appearance at th moment? Give yourself time and if you feel uncomfortable with that extra half stone use her comments to motivate yourself.

The next time she comes out with one of those passive-aggressive little half comments, look her in the eye and say calmly "What do you mean MIL?" and wait. Keep up the eye contact, look expectant and don't say anything else.

The silence'll get her.

Fuck her

My MIL (who I adore actually) does this. Why? Because she has been about 3 stone overweight for the past 20 years and I think there's more than a touch of pleasure taken when I put on half a stone!

(and in answer to your question, yes take it with a pinch of salt - rise above it and laugh about it with your dh who I'm sure loves your bum, smaller or larger!)

Agree with everyone else ignore such comments.

As someone who also has body issues I know what you mean about sitting on comments but i honestly do think you're reading too much into these comments. It's hard sometimes, esp when you're maybe feeling a bit so-so anyway not to take everything to heart, but I don't think she meant anything by them. I would think everyone looks a heck of a lot different on their wedding day to how they look wandering through town, and it's lovely that she thinks you looked stunning, my mil never passed a comment on me!!!!!! I just wish we could see ourselves how others see us......xxxxxxx

Ah, MIL's. I get on well with mine, but she regularly says things to me (and others!) that you just, well, WOULDN'T! Very tactless, but I think it's sort of a back handed compliment...we're past the being polite stage, I'm part of the family, so she doesn't stand on ceremony IYSWIM. Maybe your MIL is the same? Well done with the weight though...any tips gratefully received! :)