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in asking my husband to play Words with Friends...

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Oakmaiden · 13/01/2012 13:34

This is petty, but it is making me feel a little bit blue.

My husband and I don't really do much "together". With three children and busy schedules for both of us, there is just not much time. And even when there is time, there are few things we both want to do equally much.

So anyway - we have been playing Words With Friends. Just on and off. Cos it is the sort of game we can just have a move or two when we have time, and then leave it for a few days and come back to.

We have played 3 games altogether, and are playing the 4th now. First game I won fairly well (by 50 points or so), second game I won by a bit (maybe 20 points?) and third game he won (just!). We are playing the fourth game now, and are about half way through. Now I have been really lucky this game - I have managed to get some really high scoring words (used all my letters twice, and managed a really lucky combination on a triple word score to get around 50 points another time. SO I am currently on nearly 300, whilst my husband is just over 150 (which is a respectable score for this point in the game). And he is sulking and saying he doesn't want to play anymore, because he keeps getting "crap letters".

I'm not sure what I should say/do. My inclination is to say - well, I'm winning this time because I have been lucky and have also played some words well. But sulking because of it is childish and you (he) should just get over it. I didn't say this - I just said I was sorry....

Then he made a comment about how he wouldn't enjoy playing a game if he was "thrashing" the other person. And that felt a lot like a criticism, and made me wonder if my asking him to continue to play was in fact a selfish and callous thing to do....

I dunno. I love playing word games (possibly because I tend to be quite good at them) and we used to play scrabble quite a lot when we were first married, and I had been enjoying playing partly because of that.

But it is not fair if he is going to feel grumpy about it, is it? Even if it is mostly the only thing we do together....

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OnlyANinja · 13/01/2012 17:22

Fab as in "makes the game entirely pointless"? Hmm

Where is the fun if you are not actually playing, just doing what the cheater tells you?

squeakytoy · 13/01/2012 17:23

that looks like way too much faffing about Mrs S. I think I will stick to not cheating.. lol!

JustHecate · 13/01/2012 17:24

There is no fun in it, only. It is just about winning. Sad, really.

JustHecate · 13/01/2012 17:24

oh dear. And I've just called MrsSleepy 'sad' Blush sorry.

MrsSleepy · 13/01/2012 17:25

It is about the winning.

MrsSleepy · 13/01/2012 17:25

Sad, Yes. Oh well

JustHecate · 13/01/2012 17:26

sorry sorry sorry. I missed your post.

Are you very miffed with me? Blush

imoanruby · 13/01/2012 17:28

JustHecate thank you!

Sister in U.S and i have just started playing, she thrashed me first time - this will help me no end!!

MrsSleepy · 13/01/2012 17:28

I fully accept it is sad! But he is the worst winner and I like to see him lose time to time. I don't cheat everytime, Just most of it!

Oakmaiden · 13/01/2012 18:04

Of, I thought my thread would be doomed to be ignored as self indulgent and dull. Thank you all for your responses. :)

Betty - would love to play WWF with you - how do I find you on there?

Oblivious - I can't find the WWF thread - can you link to it for me? Or am I being very dumb?

Other people - Cheating at scrabble??? Shock Isn't that...well...cheating???

And redyam - I didn't realise Carcassonne was available as a app! I am trying to not spend money on non-essentials this month, and I am not entirely sure that iphone apps are really essential - but it is definitely on my list of things to buy when I am a bit less poor!

Kayano - can I come to your party? I miss living near all my friends - we moved to Wales about 18 months ago, but before we moved we would regularly have board game evenings. It was great fun.

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molly3478 · 13/01/2012 18:05

Everyone is cheating on it now and making up words you have never herd of and they dont know the meaning of damn you internet cheats

www.lexicalwordfinder.com/

Oakmaiden · 13/01/2012 18:16

Thing with WWF is it is a lot more forgiving than scrabble - in that you can put in a word that "might be" a word and it tells you if it is or not - whereas in Scrabble you would have to just play it and if you were wrong you would lose the points. That feels a bit like cheating to me, although I have been known to take advantage of it. But actually using word finders seems a bit much really... don't people just have a "gentleman's agreement" not to do it?

Not as much fun if you cheat, surely?

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Panzee · 13/01/2012 18:20

Is it worth buying the full version? I just play the free one at the mo.

molly3478 · 13/01/2012 18:21

That is what sent my DH over the edge yesterday he was in 5 seperate games with different people and found out through other people they were ALL cheating!

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