To feel left out of a forum

[MamaMaiasaura]

I know i am prob being unreasonable and hormonal too and to be fair I'm not as good at posting or keeping up but I do try to. It's an antenatal thread and everyone else seems really bonded and replies/comments eachother. Tho I do respond to their posts I rarely get acknowledged at all. In fb group when they post pics I try and make sure I look and comment. My pic gets almost ignored. In RL I don't have group as older children and therefore the timings don't work, so I guess this has upset me more than it should.

With ds2 I was part of a group on here and done of us are still in contact and it's great.

I almost didn't post this and pondered if I should say something on the thread. I know I'm silly but it feels quite like I've upset them all and really no clue how :(

Yes what maryz has said in her last two posts is about right for me.

Imsometimes just lurk for weeks reading advice, I just don't have the daily discipline to read catch up posts then post too.

Glad I'm not going loopy then .

Just did quick post on antenatal thread to say I'm now a lurker etc.

Right sleep for me. Nite zzz

I'm on your thread Mama and don't feel bad - I feel like that too when I've been away for a while, or sometimes when stuff happens while am away (esp as am in a different time zone), so do know how you feel. It's not personal, just one of those things - sometimes no-one comments on my posts, sometimes they do, depends on how busy things have been and I guess how much what I have said stands out. Just contribute when you can - I opted out of the thread for about 4 months last year as RL got too busy, but it doesn't matter now. Sometimes it's really busy, sometimes it's not

your so not the only one who get ignored. Sadly this happens to me in rl as well as on fb and on mn . Its happened loads recently and I find myself lurking now much more

I can't be THAT boring surely

this has made me laugh (even at this hour of the night!)

in my last group they kept missing my due date of the list when they were updating so i left in a huff (very quietly, just never posted again!)

hormones i tell you

hope all goes well

Hi mama I'm on you thread too. Sometimes I post something and it goes unanswered but I don't think it's anyone being cliquey its just someone else comes along and posts a rant about their dp or something and it takes precedence. I've sometimes wondered why when it's happened and then much later someone else will come on the thread and post a reply - different people respond to different questions.

I think your name change might have confused people it took me ages to figure out who you were (being thick)

I don't think anyone has met up so don't feel left out on that count and I think tonight seemed to be a random night when thread was really busy from what I can see - I only ever read when bf in middle of night so am always on catch up.

Don't feel you can't keep up just come and post whenever you want to and don't worry about catching up I never read more than last page of posts if I've been away! Xx

I second what others (but particularly what Pebble and Pene) have said

When everyone else had gone on Mat Leave and was posting loads and I was still at work I felt totally left out and couldn't keep up.

When it's the weekend and most people have time I have NO time.

Sometimes I read but say nothing, or bog off for days. I just have a little blast when I can.

My first ever post... in your thread! I'm a first timer so I have never used boards like this one, however I have used some others in the past. I am a snotty cow so I have peed people off in the past but I do what all great boardhogs do and sit back in my chair cackling to myself, safe in the knowledge that none of you buggers can get me :P

You don't have to be like me, but you can do the lean back in the chair thing ;)

erm the keyboard died on my bf's pc so I've travelled to my own pc to finish my post (can't seem to edit) I did have a point tbh, it was something along the lines of ignore the people who ignore you cuz as you can see loads of people have posted on this thread so you ain't run out of chatchums :P

Mama my an board on here were lovely but there were so many people on there and it was so fast moving I could never keep up!

I often felt by the time I got round to replying to stuff the conversation had moved on but it certainly wasn't intentional.

I think they started a Facebook group as they don't seem to post on here anymore. You've made me think maybe I should try and find it, but I'm just not sure I have the time or energy required judging by how things were on here!

I too now just dip in and out all over the site and mainly lurk chuckling away at others much funnier than myself :)

I agree with what maryz said up thread - I tend to dip in and out and bumble my way through. My antenatal/postnatal thread was lovely but I found it so hard to keep up with. People would post huge detailed messages and others would remember facts and respond. And a few of them seemedto be on it all the time. Try to see it asan aspect of a large forum rather than anything personal.

I think everyone feels like that at times, certainly don't think it's meant to upset you. They are probably like me and use their phone which means they can dip in and out slot during tge day.

I stopped bothering with the ante natal threads on here, they're just too bloody big and fast moving. I always join and then drop off the edge...then got upset because I had a mc and no one remarked on my absence. I mean, ffs (me, not them)

I prefer to drop in and out of discussions anyway. I'm not good at commitment!

Mama poor thing! I know exactly how you feel. I tried to post every day on my antenatal and still got ignored! I just wasn't one of the gang - it was very depressing actually! It was even worse when they all disappeared to FB and no one told me! There is still a FB group and I asked someone to invite me - but no one ever did! Hey ho!